Stepfamily Living

Remembering my identity in Christ

The Search: Who Am I Now?

From widow and single mother to second wife and stepmom, my soul suffered an identity crisis.

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Survival Tips for the first year of stepfamily life

Survival Tips for the First Year of Stepfamily Life

Ten ideas that helped (or would have helped) my family during our first blended year.

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A Healthy Stepfamily Needs God Esteem

A Healthy Stepfamily Needs ‘God-Esteem’

Jesus told us to love our neighbors as ourselves, but that requires first knowing who we are in Christ.

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Christmas can bring grief for stepfamilies

A Time to Grieve During Stepfamily Holidays

Three helpful hints I use to navigate the holidays in my blended family.

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Christmas as an Adult Child of Divorce

Navigating the Holidays as an Adult Child of Divorce

At Christmas, decisions for an adult child of divorce become especially difficult, with both parents vying for your loyalty and attention.

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Stepparenting Law

Stepparenting and the Law

Even though the legal rights of a stepparent over his or her stepchildren is limited, love is not limited.

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Parents of a blended family

Parents Between a Rock and a Hard Place

Biological parents who find themselves caught between their spouse and their child should step out of the conflict as often as possible.

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How to Cook a Stepfamily

Whether you realize it or not, your stepfamily has likely assumed a specific integration style. By that, I mean a set of assumptions about how your stepfamily ‘ought’ to come…

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Having an ‘Ours’ Baby

“Should we have a baby together?” It’s an interesting question from stepfamily couples and I’m always taken aback by it.  Couples on their first marriage never ask me that question!…

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Honest Communication Is a Stepfamily’s Greatest Ally

David’s new marriage was on the verge of failure. It wasn’t that he didn’t love his wife; they just could not agree on how much responsibility their children should have….

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Stepfamilies: Is This Normal?

I’ve had the privilege of traveling to Africa a few times in my life. The rules of the road and expectations of other drivers are not like those in the…

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7 Suggestions for a Parent Going Through Divorce

It was late in 2007 when I knew that something was not right in my marriage. My wife was very distant and didn’t want to talk about our problems. She…

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Life Lessons of a Control Freak

Growing up, my parents provided for my brothers and me whatever they could, but money wasn’t always available. Yet they gave me something far greater than the expensive trappings of…

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Stepfamilies

Stepfamilies Are Different … and the Same

God’s principles for living still apply and still hold promise for a healthy home, no matter how that home came together.

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When a Stepparent Feels Like an Outsider

Did you ever play the game Lock Out on your school playground? The game begins when kids form a circle by interlocking arms. Then one person on the outside attempts…

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Family Identity, Family Meeting

Corporations have strategy meetings on a regular basis. Department heads, supervisors, and managers get together to discuss current production goals, sales reports, and marketing efforts. The purpose behind such meetings…

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10 Survival Tips for Stepfamily Life

10 Survival Tips for Stepfamily Life

Many couples travel to the “foreign country” of stepfamily living with little or no preparation.

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Talking Blended

Life seems to tuck us into categories. Are you young or old? Republican or Democrat? From the South or North? A student or a graduate? Employed or unemployed? The list…

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Choosing Love

Have you ever noticed that God uses family life to teach us important spiritual lessons?  For example, He uses the childhood experience of being disciplined by our parents to teach…

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Is It Graduation Time

Graduation is a time when many high school and college students, along with their families, experience the reward of hard work and dedication. In addition to the celebration, graduation creates…

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Stepmothers Day

If there is one day of the year that can trigger elation or sadness for a stepmom, it’s usually Mother’s Day. And while stepfathers often find Father’s Day awkward, children…

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13 Ideas to Manage Holiday Step-Stress

The normal stress of the holidays is multiplied for stepfamilies.

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