All Articles for Marriage

Happily Married? A 10-Step Relationship Asse...

It’s been a tough year on marriages. But make no mistake: happily married isn’t the same as easily married.
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How To Be Single and Content

You want to marry your best friend—someone you’d have fun with whether traveling the world or washing your car. But how can you be single and content?
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In His Corner: 32 Ways to Honor Your Husband

It’s far more acceptable for men to be pro-women—or women to be pro-women!—than to honor your husband. But it's been a jetpack for my marriage.
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When My Husband Said ‘No’ to Aborting Ou...

I never expected to have another baby, period. Much less another baby who isn’t healthy. And even more, another baby who “should be aborted.”
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Spouse or Children: Who Comes First?

Kids often take up most of our physical, emotional, and spiritual energy. But when it comes down to it, who comes first, spouse or children?
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Is My Marriage Over?

When you’re asking, “Is my marriage over?”—it’s from a piercing, reeling position you never hoped to see. Is getting a divorce your only option?
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Married to a Stranger? 5 Tips to Know Your S...

Ever find yourself thinking you’re married to a stranger? You aren’t alone. Here are a few ways to start getting to know your love again.
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Real Love vs. Fake Love: What Does Real Love...

Wondering if what you have with your significant other is real love? True devotion might not look like you think it does.
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Weekly Schedule Overload? 3 Questions to Ask

With the summer break, now is a great time to reevaluate your family’s weekly schedule. Before penciling anything in, here are three questions to ask.
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6 Fun Date Ideas You Might Not Have Consider...

Running low on fun date ideas lately? Here are some creative ways to have fun with your spouse that you might not have considered.
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The Cost of Raising a Child: How to Tell Kid...

Maybe you're feeling the cost of raising a child now more than ever. How can you tell your child, "We can't afford that"?
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Before Marriage: 5 Things You Don’t Have t...

Before marriage, I thought I was overly prepared for married life. But over the years I’ve found marriage to be unpredictable.
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Need a Summer Vacation With Your Spouse? 8 I...

Aching for a summer vacation with your spouse but don't know what to do or where to go? Here are eight creative ideas for a getaway with your love.
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Laid Off: Moving Forward After Job Loss

Being laid off brings stress and struggles to make ends meet. But as you search for a job, don’t miss what's in the waiting.
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When Your Spouse Has a Different Stress Resp...

As a married couple, you likely each have a different stress response. How can you leverage relationship stress to draw you together as a team?
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When Your Spouse Faces a Layoff: 5 Ways to H...

When your spouse faces a layoff, hold back on the cliché, this-is-what-you-should-do responses. Instead, here are five ways to help.
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Is Social Distancing Causing Distance in You...

Quarantines, social distancing and health hypervigilance have us out of our routines and comfort zones, causing a host of emotions erupting in marriage.
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Losing a Spouse is for Life

There are many lessons I’ve gathered on the journey of grief, and one of them is this: The heartache of losing a spouse lasts a lifetime.
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Whatever Bad Happens, I Choose Us

You can’t know everything that’s going to happen in marriage, but you can decide ahead of time how to handle it with the promise in your vows: I choose us.
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4 Ways to Not Be a Coronavirus Divorce Stati...

A recent article predicted a rise in divorces due to the COVID-19 quarantine. Here are four ways you can avoid becoming a coronavirus divorce statistic.
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Sick and Tired? Don’t Take It Out on Your...

If absence makes the heart grow fonder, being sick and tired together sucks the fondness right out. But this quarantine means we're stuck in this together.
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How do I get my spouse to do it my way?

How do I get my spouse to do it my way?

Often, we ask ourselves "How do I get my spouse to do things my way?" Yet arguments about the “right way” are rarely about what they seem.
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10 Date Night In Ideas for When You Can’t...

Any semblance of date night just got drop-kicked out the door. But with a little commitment you can still make time together. 10 date-ins get you started.
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When Your Spouse Suffers with Chronic Pain

Every morning I wake up wondering if it’ll be another day of doctors, supplements, tears, and doubts for my spouse who suffers with chronic pain.
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3 Steps to Offering a Good Apology

Saying “I’m sorry” is one of the most important phrases you can say in any relationship. But it’s also one of the hardest.
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How Can I Break a Porn Addiction?

Pornography drives our curiosity and shapes our sexual expectations. If you or someone you know is struggling, these tips can help.
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Joy in marriage

4 Habits for More Joy in Marriage

The brain magnet has shown that attachment—specifically, joyful attachment—is the most powerful motivator in life. No doubt, joy in marriage changes a home.
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6 Things My Parents Taught Me About a Strong...

I’m not married yet, but I’ve spent my entire life learning how to have a strong marriage through watching my parents' example.
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Gray Divorce

3 Ways to Protect Your Marriage From ‘Gray...

I’ve always thought there was some marital finish line protecting your marriage on the other side. But few people warn you about gray divorce.
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Where Can I Get Help For My Marriage?

We found out that no one is immune from marriage challenges. When we faced a serious conflict, I didn’t know where to turn for help for my marriage.
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6+ Questions to Ask When You’re Making...

Wondering which direction you should go with a big decision? Don’t overestimate your ability to mess up your life by taking a wrong turn! 6 Q's to help.
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Will you be my Bridesmaid?

As I narrow down my list of potential bridesmaids, I realize I need more than someone to plan a wedding shower. I need someone who will help me be the wife I long to be.
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Handling Conflict with Your Spouse

That Same Stupid Fight: Handling Conflict wi...

Conflict with your spouse is inevitable for all couples. Whoever got the idea into our heads that “marriage should be easy” probably wasn’t married.
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I Needed Her to Be More Than Just My Wife

Then I asked my wife a question that would change the nature of our relationship forever. I needed her to be more than someone who I did fun things with.
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EQ

How Your EQ Determines Your Happiness in Mar...

One of the most important facets of marriage is highly overlooked—the idea of knowing yourself. Emotional Intelligence isn't as innate as it seems.
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The Divorce Announcement Shouldn’t Hav...

We'd been sufficiently warned. We were working against all the odds to stay together: divorced homes. Demanding careers. And now, a chronically-ill child. 
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Cultivate Oneness in Your Marriage: Water Your Own Grass

Cultivate Oneness in Your Marriage: Water Yo...

In your marriage, will you be the gardener or the consumer?
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Hope for your marriage

There Is Hope for Your Marriage

As bad as your situation might be, it is not beyond God’s power to fix.
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When My Wife Told Me She Didn’t Love M...

My wife of 10 years told me she didn't love me anymore. I would have said our marriage was a 10 out of 10. How was I so blind to the deadness of her heart?
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I Married the Wrong Person

In only a few short months, we had gone from gazing lovingly into each other’s eyes to glaring at each other with anger and disgust, each wondering – and not only to ourselves – if we had married the wrong person.
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Help! Is My Spouse Manipulating Me?

Manipulation is a mind game leaving you wondering: Is my spouse manipulating me? We all have unhealthy ways to get what we want. So it’s worth considering.
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Your Spouse Is Not Your Enemy

Your Spouse Is Not Your Enemy

Satan is our real enemy, and he would love to divide our marriages through suspicion, jealousy, disrespect, and resentment.
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Bad Boys Hollywood Lies

Bad Boys and Hollywood Lies

Instead of looking to Hollywood for the answers about love and dating, find out what Scripture has to say.
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Gentleman Is Never Out of Style

A Gentleman Is Never Out of Style

The cultural confusion about masculinity has left many young guys to either shy away from their masculinity or use it selfishly.
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How Far Is Too Far?

When dating, we often miss one very important truth of relational health: Intimacy should never exceed commitment.
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When Your Spouse Rejects Your Love

My wife refused all my attempts to reconcile, keeping her distance both physically and emotionally.That scared me. And I had a choice to make.
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retirement

Aah, Retirement. What could go wrong?

How could we possibly think retirement, changing health, and decline ahead wouldn't have surprises and challenges like our 40+ years of marriage?
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Women, You’re Allowed to Enjoy Sex Too...

My grandmother said to prevent getting pregnant she just "...didn’t do the evil thing!” No disrespect to her but sex is not dirty or shameful.
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How Often Does a Healthy Couple Have Sex?

We've all wondered the long-echoed question: how often should we have sex? Likely you and your spouse don't agree. It'd be nice to ask someone else!
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Your Dating Questions Answered

Ten questions guys commonly ask and our best answers to these often tricky (and awkward-to-talk-about) situations.
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Is It the Man or Woman’s Job to Preven...

Mike Pence, among many men, committed to not being alone with a woman in the workplace. Is this offensive to working women who don't have the same option in the male-dominant workforce?
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4 Ways to Be a Better Husband

In year one of marriage, we did a lot of right things to be good spouses. But for marriage to last, it has to be based on more than a few early habits.
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5 Reasons Your Marriage Isn’t as Bad a...

How do we know in the middle of deep despair if it’s time to throw the house key in his face? Or if we can check our emotions and reevaluate? 
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The Enneagram and My Marriage

I’m Jenn. I’m a 9. If you’re a 6, like my husband, you’re waiting to decide if I’m knowledgeable about the Enneagram until after you hear what I say.
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7 Ways to Flirt on Social Media

Sure, social media has been known to ruin a marriage or two. But if used in appropriate ways, it's a tool to actually strengthen your bond.
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Marriage Should Be Fun

Fun and laughter can illuminate our world by reminding us life is not supposed to be so serious.
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Think Your Marriage is Dying? 7 Signs to Con...

It’s your billionth fight about the same thing. Your go-to conversations throw out divorce as a threat. What should you do if your marriage is dying?
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7 Ideas to Get Your Husband to Talk to You

I don’t just want to connect with him just for me. I want to both know him and be known by him. I want my husband to join in our conversation too.
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Dull Knives and Missed Opportunities

That’s when the crying turned ugly. The early tears were sadness. But these were regret. I was lamenting a missed opportunity.
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When My Wife Wants Sex … But I’m Not...

On the fourth night of the honeymoon, I was like, “Babe, I’m spent. Can we just cuddle?” You ever been there? Turning down the lady’s advances?
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Balancing Family and Career for the Young Pr...

More stuff means more bills. More bills require more work.The work life balance cycle is as paralyzing as it is addictive. And it is luring every American family.
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What Marriage Counseling Is … And Isn...

Meghan McCain's version of marriage counseling is "drinking Jack Daniels, shooting some guns and hanging out." Is that what you should expect?
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debt in marriage

I Thought Our Debt Was His Problem

I didn’t want to work hard to hand my paycheck over to cover his debt. I wanted to spend my money my way. He is the one who went to college and accrued it!
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15 Ways to Be a Better Wife

I polled other women on ways to be a better wife. Because I never want to assume that I have all the right wife answers. Let's see if our husbands agree.
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Sex After Baby: From Her Side of the Bed

I struggled with a lot of fear when it came to sex after baby! I avoided telling my husband that I was wrestling with a lack of desire for quite awhile.
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Sex After Baby: From His Side of the Bed

When and how do you get back into physical intimacy with each other after a new baby? As the husband, I have learned 3 nonnegotiables for sex after baby.  
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I don't love him anymore

I Don’t Love Him Anymore

I no longer felt anything for my husband. That thought terrified me--I don’t love him anymore. "Would I be happier with someone else?" I wondered.
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25 Things Husbands Should Start Doing

The following list is a great way to start loving your wife in a way that makes her flourish. 
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To The Newlywed Wife … From a Decade L...

I wish I could speak to that fresh-faced, 22-year-old newlywed. She needed some of the wisdom that God has deposited in me over the last decade of marriage.
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“I want sex more than he does!”...

1 in 5 women have the higher sex drive. But when our husbands decline--or rarely initiate sex--it leaves us thinking, What's wrong with him? Or is it me?
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If Bill Gates Can Drop Off His Kids, So Can...

When dads share the household responsibilities, it’s a win-win for the family and a win-win for society. Bill Gates, tech guru, and wife Melinda proved it.
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When Your Man’s Long Hours Don’t...

Following a Major League Baseball career, my husband's work led to a new demanding position. So, I came home to an empty house and had dinner alone again.
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Save Sex for the Honeymoon

Save Sex for the Honeymoon

There are benefits to abstaining from sex while engaged. Here are five reasons to say “I won’t” until you say “I do.”
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Romantic Summer Getaways for Less

Invest time in your marriage so your family will have a firm foundation.
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5 Keys to a Truly Romantic Marriage

Adding a little tenderness to your marriage is easier than you think.
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We Didn't Have a Clue We Had a Problem

We Didn’t Have a Clue We Had a Problem

Attending FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® early in our marriage gave us the tools we needed to build a healthy and sustainable union.
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When to Call It Off Before the Big Day

Marriage is a big deal. It makes sense to work through the hard questions together so you're equipped to keep the lifetime commitment you're about to make.
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Staying close in remarriage

How to Say ‘Not Tonight’ Without...

Is it ever okay to deny his advances? Everybody needs an occasional raincheck, right?
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All My Husband Heard From Me Was ‘BOOO...

After we'd been married awhile, I realized I had gone from Dave's biggest cheerleader to his biggest critic.
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Dave and Ann Wilson

‘I Told God I’d Rather Die Than Be Marri...

Meet Dave and Ann Wilson, the new cohosts of FamilyLife Today® who bring the authentic voice of a couple who has struggled greatly in their marriage—yet found hope and help in Christ.
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Alzheimer's

How Should We Feel About B. Smith’s Hu...

Suffering from Alzheimer's, lifestyle guru B. Smith hardly seems to recognize the other woman now living in her home. Should we sympathize with her husband?
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Married Single Parent

I Am a Married Single Parent

I am still legally married. But all the things that a marriage typically brings, especially in the world of parenting, do not exist in our marriage.
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10 Surprisingly Effective Ways to Improve Yo...

Maintaining the marital bed isn’t always easy. Here are some ideas to help you keep your marriage strong by coming together often as husband and wife.
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Guard Your Heart From Adultery

The core issue regarding sexual temptation is the condition of our hearts.
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Cost of parenting kids

Kids Are Worth Every Single Penny—and More

At the end of my life, I won’t be sad about what I couldn't afford. I’ll be thankful for the rich memories and lives we’ve built with our children.
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Young, Married, and Unable to Have Sex

Having grown up in the church, it came as a shock to me when my husband and I encountered difficulty consummating our marriage.
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Making Resolutions for a Thriving Marriage

Setting goals is important to maintaining a healthy marriage. Here are a few ideas to help you stick to them.
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Soothing the Shopping Itch Without Breaking...

Ideas to help you feel like you’re living in luxury without spending much money … or any at all.
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Why I Wish We Hadn’t Lived Together Before...

Here are five reasons I wish my husband and I hadn’t moved in together before saying “I do.”
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What I Wish for Jeff Bezos and Tim Tebow

Despite their differing marriage scenarios, my prayer for both the Bezos and Tebows is the same: a happy ending
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Maintaining Our Individuality in Marriage

When you look at our marriage you see unity, but you also see each one of us as a different and unique person.
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Advice for the new bride

For the New Bride: 4 Things to Remember Afte...

I had no idea what being a wife meant other than we’d live together forever, hopefully have some kids, and file a joint tax return.
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A marriage license is not a receipt

A Marriage License Is Not a Receipt, It’s...

Exchanging one spouse for another isn’t as easy as returning the wrong pair of shoes. Choose wisely from the beginning and forget the return policy.
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How to ruin your sex life

How to Ruin Your Sex Life in 10 Easy Steps

It takes little energy, time, or even thought to take your bedroom romps from great to nonexistent.
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Moving Beyond the Fairy-Tale Marriage

The divine design of marriage calls us to something deeper—to God’s daily involvement. Because we can’t uphold our vows without Him.
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Our Favorite Weekend to Remember Stories of...

Marriages are being transformed at Weekend to Remember® marriage getaways. Here are just a few of our favorite stories guests shared with us last year.
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Stay Connected With Your Spouse While You're raising your kids

Connecting With Your Spouse Through the Busy...

When we became parents, our entire universe shifted. What happened to the couple we were?
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George H.W. Bush and the Marriage America Ne...

I want my own marriage to resemble the one our 41st president had with his late bride, Barbara.
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Not All Millennials Wait For the “Righ...

There’s no doubt that marrying my high school sweetheart benefited us for the better.
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Is a happy divorce possible?

Is “Happy Divorce” a Thing?

And if there are really no tears, no heartache, and we can remain friends–is divorce really the most healing and whole option?
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Marriage

When Was the Last Time Your Marriage Had a P...

You might make sure to head to the doctor each year like clockwork, but when is the last time your marriage had a physical?
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Not Another Top-Ten List

You don’t have to look far in order to find advice for how you can improve your marriage. Articles are all over the internet about what you should say to sustain your spouse’s interest, the type of clothes you should wear to appear more attractive, and how you can be even more intimate with your partner.
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Healthy Marriage Expectations

After ‘I Do,’ Now What?

Marriage is a relationship that will transform you, if you let it. Saying “I do” is only the beginning of a lifetime of laughter, frustration, forgiveness, happiness, and deep joy. It’s worth it.
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Not Another Statistic

What was the last negative statistic you heard about marriage? Most of us can quickly cite sources that point to the fact that half of all marriages end in divorce.
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Why You Need to Get Away

Spending an entire weekend learning how to communicate, grow in oneness, and love one another better was like hitting a reset to our busy lives.
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5 Things No One Told Me About Marriage

Young and Married: Five Things We Learned fr...

There’s a secret that nobody likes to tell dating or engaged couples: Marriage is really hard.
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Overcoming Communication Barriers With Your...

Communication in marriage is not easy. But the fight to communicate is worth the work. In the end, you’ll find a thriving marriage rooted in oneness, not division.
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Better Marriage

Your Marriage Is Not Your Parents’

Having divorced parents doesn’t mean your own marriage will also end in divorce. You are not destined to live out the same mistakes as your parents.
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Every Marriage Needs Community

Marriage Is Not an Island: Our Need for Comm...

At the Weekend to Remember marriage retreat I found a profound sense of community. It reminded me of one simple fact: We are not alone.
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Marriage Getaway

Marriage Is for Me… Right?

Conflict over money and infidelity might be some of the most common reasons for getting a divorce in our society, but I’d argue that there’s a more common root to most separations:“I’m just not happy anymore.”
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Our Fixer-Upper Marriage

Our Fixer-Upper Marriage

My husband and I have learned much about putting our relationship into the hands of the Master Renovator.
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4 Ways to Prioritize Your Spouse Above Your...

In our crazy, fast-paced lives, it’s easy to be distracted from what is most important. Here are some ideas to make more time for the person you love most.
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The Secret to Marriage

The Secret to My Marriage

One simple concept will guide you into the relationship you always wanted to have.
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Sex matters in marriage

Why Sex Matters In Marriage

Married couples who have sex regularly live longer, have better heart health, enjoy a deeper connection, and can let go of annoyances easier.
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Billy Graham’s Incredible Ministry … and...

Billy’s marriage to Ruth was a partnership that had a worldwide impact.
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I’m Not a Nag, Am I?

Four suggestions on how to be nag free and make life easier for you and your family.
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Learning to Pray With My Wife

My journey of committing to praying with my wife for 30 days and the tips I learned along the way.
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11 Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband

Some wives don't understand how important respect is to a man. Here are some ideas for how a woman can give her spouse the esteem he longs for.
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4 Ways to Harness Your Power for Good in You...

God has given us women the privilege and the ability to bring life to our husbands with our love.
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5 Ways to Help Your Husband Step Up to Manho...

A wife plays a pivotal role in her husband’s transition from boyhood into manhood.
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Passion in marriage

9 Ways to Feed the Passion in Your Marriage

We need to make a practice of tending fully to the love of our life for a few moments a day, every day.
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A Hard Act for a Husband to Follow

Here’s a new way to think about leadership in your marriage.
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5 Communication Tools That Saved My Marriage

Early in our marriage, these simple principles changed our hearts and transformed our relationship.
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Resolving conflict

6 Steps for Resolving Conflict in Marriage

There is no way to avoid conflict in your marriage. The question is: How will you deal with it?
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25 Anniversary Ideas for Couples

Are you looking for some new ideas to help your next wedding anniversary really stand out? Take steps now and begin planning a memorable celebration.
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3 Ways to Recapture the Romance

If you want to rekindle the romance in your marriage, you'll find it doesn't require a lot of money, and it often doesn't even take that much time.
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5 Romantic Needs of a Woman

I've spent a lifetime learning about how to satisfy my wife's romantic needs. That means meeting her physical, emotional, and spiritual needs.
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7 Things to Remember About Sex

Your spouse approaches intimacy much differently than you. Here are some things husbands and wives need to know about sex.
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Meeting your spouse's sexual needs

When You Lose Interest in Sex

After you marry you have a duty before God to meet your spouse’s sexual needs. But sometimes healing and restoration must happen first.
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Your Wife’s 3 Relationship Nonnegotiab...

As you study your wife and learn how to define romance according to her dictionary, you will become an irresistible man.
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What Should Be the Husband’s ‘Ro...

If you apply these concepts correctly, you'll experience freedom in your roles and work better as a team to combat isolation and conflict in your marriage.
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15 Things Wives Should Stop Doing

I asked some girlfriends, “What should a wife stop doing if she wants to improve her marriage?” This list is based on their responses.
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Seven Things I Wish Id Known About Men Befor...

Growing up with my stepdad and younger brother I thought I knew a thing or two about men. While I knew not to change the channel during a football game, not to serve quiche for dinner, and not to attempt to fix a broken doorknob with a rubber band, there were a few important things […]
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It’s Not Your Husband’s Job to Make You...

The only way you can experience true joy is by pursuing intimacy with Christ on a daily basis.
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40 Consequences of Adultery

The counterfeit pleasure of an affair can never overcome the ways infidelity can destroy a life and marriage.
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Forgiveness after adultery

Forgiving Your Spouse After Adultery

Four lessons from my journey of regaining trust in my husband.
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3 Ways to Move Toward Oneness in Your Marriage

3 Ways to Move Toward Oneness in Your Marria...

Marriage is like a three-legged race; these suggestions will help you cross the finish line in first place.
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A Passion for Building Godly Families

Two ordinary couples who are helping change the world.
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Shock Your Spouse and Kids With This Questio...

Here’s a practical way to revolutionize your relationship with your family. But it requires some risk.
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Building a Marriage That Lasts

Isolation can be defeated if you are willing to make the right choices to build oneness and intimacy.
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Building Your Family With the Right Set of B...

Like the box top of a puzzle, God’s Word provides a necessary picture of what our lives are supposed to look like.
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Do I Deserve Marriage My Way?

Do I Deserve Marriage My Way?

Our selfish nature distorts our view of life and marriage. But God has a different plan.
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Marriage

Embracing God’s Purposes for Marriage

Women have the tendency to pursue secondary purposes over God's primary purpose.
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5 Essentials for a Thriving Marriage

5 Essentials for a Thriving Marriage

Take a few minutes to evaluate how you can improve your marriage relationship.
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Giving Up My Independence

The uncomplicated yet difficult path to oneness in marriage.
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Improve Your Marriage by Being Worse Parents

Parents often put their marriage relationship on the back burner. These four principles will help you balance working on your marriage while attempting to raise children.
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Is Marriage a ‘Dying Institution’...

Marriage is facing some big challenges today, but that doesn't mean we should replace it with something different.
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Is Marriage Just a 'Piece of Paper'?

Is Marriage Just a ‘Piece of PaperR...

A growing number of couples are choosing to avoid marriage altogether.
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Marriage Is Not Our Ultimate Destination

The real 'happily ever after'
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On the Mountaintop or in the Valley

We found that attending a Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway was a different experience at different points in our lives.
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The Futility of the 50/50 Plan

One the surface, this approach to marriage sounds reasonable, but in the end it won't work.
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God’s Purposes for Marriage

The uncomplicated yet difficult path to oneness in marriage.
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God's purpose for marriage

How Should We Define Marriage Today?

What does it mean for followers of Christ to live in a culture that often defines marriage differently than the Bible does?
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A Surprise Celebration

What started as a family reunion turned into a time of intense gratitude for the goodness of God in giving us the years my husband and I have had together
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What the Latest Shooting Taught Me About Pro...

How a husband can best protect his wife from the evil that lurks in this world.
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6 Ways to Make Yourself ‘Marry-able’

In these days it takes an intentional effort to arrive at marriage with optimal spiritual, relational, and emotional health.
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A Marriage Struck by Lightning

When Ryan and Sarah were jolted by forces out of their control, they saw God transform the circumstances into good.
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Afraid of Commitment?

The story of two people who realized that commitment to one another is grounded in surrender to Jesus Christ.
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Are You Preparing for a Wedding or for a Mar...

A wedding is not the completion of engagement but the beginning of a new life.
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Proposal Stories to Remember

When I asked my coworkers about how they got engaged, I discovered some proposals that put a smile on my face.
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Sabrina’s Wedding: Including the Fathe...

The second in a 3 part series.
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Sabrina’s Wedding: The Covenant

October 2003 Editor’s Note: This is the final article in a three-part series.  You can read part one here and part two here. Our wedding day couldn’t have been more beautiful. The sun was shining, and the breeze was cool. My first waking moments were serene. “It’s my wedding day,” I thought as I enjoyed […]
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Still Looking for Prince Charming

If you want a truly "happily ever after" ending, you need to look for love the wise way
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Stopping the Cycle Entering Marriage as a Ch...

So you’re getting married! Congratulations! According to the latest research, if you are under the age of 30, there is a 58% chance that you are entering your marriage as a child of divorce. Do you fall into this category? If you’re wondering what on earth that has to do with the fact that you […]
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The Eight Symbols of Isolation

The 8 Symbols of Isolation in Marriage

Every day each partner in a marriage makes choices that result in oneness or in isolation.
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3 Characteristics of a Repentant Spouse

If you want a strong marriage, there comes a time to be honest about yourself.
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Who Does the Housework?

How can we uphold what the Bible says about marital relationships and make good decisions about housework?
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Can God Do the Impossible in a Marriage

I wrote an article for The Family Room ezine called “She Hated Her Husband.” It was about Brian and Julie Moreau’s disintegrating relationship and the key role that a Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway played in saving their marriage. A skeptical reader posted this comment below the article: “If this story is really true maybe […]
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‘Indivisible’ Deals With Conflicts in Wa...

New film tells the true story of Army Chaplain Darren Turner, who survived on the battlefield but almost lost his marriage in the process.
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What Should Be the Wife’s ‘Role...

While the Bible doesn't apply our modern word "role" to marriage, the Scriptures are clear about the unique responsibilities God assigns to a wife.
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Managing Emotions in the Midst of Disagreeme...

The goal of a balanced communicator is to properly manage and express both thoughts and emotions.
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What Does the Bible Say About Divorce? When...

Too many couples today decide that if their marriage isn't working, they should get out. But the Scriptures point to a God who can bring healing.
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Why Sex Is So Important to Your Husband

God wired men and women very differently. And a man's sexual performance with his wife is an inseparable part of who he is.
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50 Things To Say to Your Husband to Make Him...

Your words have great power in the life of your husband ... they can lift him up and give him confidence, or they can beat him down.
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Are You Married and Lonely?

Most people believe marriage is the cure for loneliness, but you actually began battling the dreaded foe of isolation when you drove off on your honeymoon.
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When Your Marriage Is Dying

A marriage can't be restored if only one person wants reconciliation, but don't give up hope. God can give you the strength and wisdom you need.
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Engagement

Surviving ‘Engagement Season’ as a Singl...

If you’re anything like me, you dread the feelings this season brings.
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Does Your Marriage Need Help?

In a culture of self-sufficiency, seeking help may seem shameful or weak, but teachable followers of Christ know better.
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5 Biggest Little Ways to Improve Your Marria...

A few small actions carry surprising power in building a lasting relationship.
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3 Practical Steps to Biblical Leadership in...

For the sake of our wives, we must once again assume our role as leaders who execute our God-given responsibility with humble hearts and loving service.
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Do You Love Your Wife Out of Obligation?

It takes courage for husbands to fulfill God’s calling to love their wives for a noble purpose.
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Giving Your Spouse the Freedom to Fail

Six gifts you can give that remove the pressure to perform.
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Romance for Dummies

Romance isn’t something you bring out on special occasions. It's one way you can express your care and love for each other.
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Communication in marriage

10 Rules for Good Communication With Your Hu...

Good communication requires certain rules and guidelines, which are simple in one sense and extremely difficult in another.
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Avoid the Greener Grass Syndrome

The best way to protect yourself from an affair is to water your own marriage.
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My Father’s Secret to Staying in Love

As a wonderful example of a godly husband and father, I've always been able to go to my father for advice about anything.
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State and Local Counseling Organizations

The purpose and objectives of this list of state and local counseling organizations are strictly informative and educational.
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His Lies Finally Caught Up With Him

Mary Murray felt betrayed, and Mike felt desperate and suicidal. That's when God stepped in.
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Would Their Marriage Survive Multiple Affair...

When Gerald Varlack lost his job, he was involved with several women—at the same time.
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He Didn’t Know His Marriage Was Dying

Alberto and Debbie Rodriguez were two strangers living in the same house. One was getting lonelier and lonelier … while the other was clueless.
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It’s Never Too Late for God to Save Yo...

If you drink deeply from the well of God’s love, you will inevitably pour that love into each other.
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He Returned Home a Troubled Man

Rusty Mauney couldn’t forget his wartime experience in Iraq. As he found relief in alcohol, his wife, Marsha, began asking God to save their marriage.
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3 Keys to Living in Contentment

3 Keys to Living in Contentment

We can learn to live happily even if we are denied things we consider essential.
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10 Tips for Leading Marriage Small Groups

As you prepare for facilitating a small group, you will find God strengthening your own marriage and giving you a heart to minister to others.
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A Great Love Life Without 50 Shades of Anyth...

These five steps have personally helped me have enjoyable and satisfying intimacy with my husband.
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Why Mike Pence Is Wise to Protect His Marria...

Constructing "zones" or "hedges" around marriage can help protect against temptation and appearances of impropriety.
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What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew About Me...

A wife can help her husband be what God wants him to be by understanding his needs.
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A Backdoor to Happiness in Marriage

If you want a great relationship, learn to showcase your spouse.
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10 Ways to Let Your Husband Know You’r...

Don't let another day go by without communicating admiration for your husband.
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3 Priorities for Every Married Woman

No matter what your marriage stage—newlyweds, raising young children or teenagers, empty nest with grandkids—we share some common needs as wives.
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3 Tips for Investing in Your Husband

Likewise, you can strengthen your husband's self-esteem. But first you must recognize where he needs bolstering.
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30 Ways to Pray for Your Husband

A list of things to pray for your husband
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Becoming Your Husband’s Personal Cheer...

Your encouragement can breathe life into your husband.
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Remembering How God Is Working

A couple weeks ago, in my work here at FamilyLife, I was feeling lazy and listless, uncreative and unmotivated.  Looking for some inspiration, I began reading through a pile of comments from couples who attended a recent Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway in Indianapolis.  It took me all of two minutes to shake away my […]
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10 Ways to Romance Your Husband

These ideas will help you freshen your love life.
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30 Ways to Love Your Wife

Here's a list of non-sexual ways to make your wife feel loved, valued, cherished, and affirmed. It will do wonders for your marriage.
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Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages

If research showed you there were five things you could do to turn a marriage around or to keep a marriage strong, and that they were easy and free, what would you do? Well, here’s your chance. Shaunti Feldhahn spent years interviewing couples to find the ones who had the happiest marriages. Her purpose was to […]
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Guarding Against Adultery

We should be alert for the initial warning signs of unfaithfulness.
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Unrealistic Expectations Almost Destroyed My...

In the midst of my pain and self-centered complaining, I exhausted my husband and saddened God.
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I Decided to Give the Whole ‘FaithR...

During the early years of their marriage, Jim and Nina Roesner made some life-changing decisions at Weekend to Remember getaways.
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Could God Heal Their Marriage?

There was an invisible barrier between Marc and Lisa Lavalas.
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50 Ways to Inspire Your Wife

Ideas to help you make your bride feel cherished.
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The Enemy of Your Marriage

It doesn’t take long for fear to replace trust, for intimacy to be broken. Just look at what happened in the first marriage.
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A Marriage Raised From the Dead

Less than 12 months after Tim and Teena Hoover married, their vows to God and to one another were shattered.
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What if I Want Sex More Than My Husband Does...

If your needs are vastly different than your husband's needs, work together to find the right balance or compromise for mutual sexual fulfillment.
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7 Truths to Remember in Troubled Times

Concerned about economic, political, racial, and moral instability in our culture? Disheartened by struggles in your personal life? Here’s what to focus on when the ground shakes beneath your feet.
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Defeating Selfishness in Your Marriage

Marriage offers a tremendous opportunity to do something about our tendency to go our own way.
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Wondering If God Will Give Me a Husband

I have come to see that I must think about my singleness in terms of a space for growth toward Christlikeness.
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Would She Walk Out on Her Marriage?

Troy and Sara Groves once said divorce was not an option. But they didn’t anticipate the struggles they’d face with weaknesses, expectations, and bitterness.
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Recovering Intimacy After an Affair

If you're willing to wade into the deep waters, God will help you put the pieces of your broken relationship back together. You can survive—and even thrive.
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What’s the Real Problem in Your Marria...

Instead of focusing on treating the symptoms, identify the underlying "disease" in your marriage with these six suggestions.
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When Should You Involve Someone Else in Your...

Five issues that warrant outside intervention.
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Wrestling With God Over a Broken Marriage

Trusting my husband was not an option, but I wondered if I could trust God.
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Shut Up and Listen

It was one of the biggest conflicts of our marriage. And as I sat there full of anger and self-righteousness, I knew that I hadn't handled it correctly.
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When Your Husband Needs Help—and Doesn’t...

You have strengths your husband doesn’t have. It takes a bit of wisdom and skill to help in a harmonious, nonthreatening way.
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10 Things a Man Needs to Know About Marriage

In a culture of counterfeits and mistruths, marriage needs to be re-branded as an awesome, noble, and challenging adventure.
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2 Steps to Keep Your Marriage From Going Stale

2 Steps to Keep Your Marriage From Going Sta...

A husband and wife often begin drifting apart so slowly that they hardly recognize it's happening.
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The Gambler Took a Chance on Marriage

He wasn’t looking for love… but love found him.
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What Are Your ‘Sexpectations’?

It's easy to allow unrealistic or harmful expectations about sex to run rampant through my mind. When that happens I need to stop and ask a few questions.
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Reader Responses: Marriages We Most Admire

Editor’s note, May 2015:  In a recent FamilyLife contest, participants were asked, “What marriage do you most admire, and why?”  Here’s a selection of their responses.  For more, read “The Marriages We Admire.” 1. My former pastor and his wife … they are both with the Lord now.  They had very different strengths but they […]
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Shut Up and Let Her Talk

Your wife's need to be heard is her way of letting you be the caretaker and confidant her mother and friends used to be.
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Marriage Always Turns Out Different Than Exp...

My wife's suffering taught us that marriage can bind our hearts together in an unconditional love that our human emotions could never manufacture on their own.
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15 Ways to Refresh Your Marriage

No matter where your marriage is, it can always become stronger. Here are some ideas for those who want to shake things up a bit.
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Are You Listening?

Three communication tips based on wisdom gained from years (and years) of trial and error.
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Winning the War of Words

Getting to the heart of your communication struggles.
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When Sex Is at the Bottom of Your List

Marriage has taught me how different I am sexually from my husband.
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10 Questions to Ask Your Wife Every Year

An annual exercise to listen to your wife's words and hear from her heart.
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Nourishing and Cherishing Your Wife

The goal of our love is to see our wives become more like Christ. I must be ready to die to myself as I cleanse her, nourish her, and cherish her.
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Embracing Your Differences in Marriage

The unique, fresh traits that attracted you to your spouse can become tiresome after you are married.
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3 Weeds to Pull From Your Marriage Garden

3 Weeds to Pull From Your Marriage Garden

No matter how much effort goes into a garden, it will all be in vain if you don't deal with weeds.The same goes with marriage.
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Reader Responses Ideas for Special Getaways

We asked readers to send us ideas on special getaways with their spouse. Here are some of the replies.
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Renewing romance in your marriage

Romancing Your Man

Renewing romance in your marriage means taking the time to work on your relationship. Epress love to your husband like you want him to express it to you.
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Adrift in Marriage

Jerry and Olivia Dugan wanted to stay married but didn’t know how.
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9 Steps to Defeat Isolation in Your Marriage

Every marriage, no matter how good, needs a plan to combat isolation and to bring about intimacy.
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How to Write a Love Note

The most meaningful of love letters are simply true, humble expressions of the heart. Learn about the elements of a love letter and things to avoid.
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Face Your Blitzes With Confidence

When you face hardships, it helps to know the truth about God’s peace and sovereignty.
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The Same Old Argument

The Same Old Argument

It seemed like the 1948th time we’d had the same exchange. But the solution this time was different.
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I Never Made It to the Super Bowl

As an NFL quarterback, I yearned to make the big game. But as much as I love football, I realize it can easily distract us from more important goals.
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7 More Things a Man Should Know About Marria...

In last week’s Marriage Memo, I wrote of seven things men need to know about marriage.  In a culture of counterfeits and mistruths, it’s important to understand what marriage is about.  Here are seven more things men should know.  As you read through the list, ask God to remake you and help you understand what […]
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7 Things a Man Needs to Know About Marriage

The North Star of relationships is is knowing Jesus Christ and His purpose for marriage, and trusting in His strength.
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5 Tips for Investing in Your Wife

Your wife needs your creative energy if she is to become all that God designed her to be.
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Growing Old Together: Like a Beautiful Old B...

I wouldn’t trade our empty nest years for the relationship we had in our youth for anything.
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“Boss” in the Workplace, “...

How does marriage work when the wife has a high-power position in the working world?
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Encouraging Your Husband

How you can put wind in his sails.
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10 Surprising Ways to Increase Romance

Believe it or not, these small changes can amplify your feelings of love without mood lighting or lingerie.
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Bill and Vonette Bright and the Early-Marria...

Early in their marriage, Bill and Vonette Bright realized they needed an anchor for their relationship.
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Temptation

The Courage to Resist Temptation

One foolish choice made in a moment of weakness can wipe out years of integrity.
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After the Affair: Rebuilding Our Marriage

When Brad left a note saying he was moving out for good, I wondered where God was.
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Don’t Let Bitterness Poison Your Marri...

Over time, repeated hurts can build up to destroy a relationship, but these suggestions can help you heal before the damage is done.
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Building a Spiritual Foundation for Your Mar...

Make sure you use all the resources and tools God makes available to build oneness in your relationship.
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10 Classic Romantic Films Your Husband Won&...

These movies fall somewhere in between 'chick flicks' and 'man movies,' with strong romance to please wives, and enough other elements to attract husbands. 
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Affair Proof Your Marriage

In this on-the-go, always-plugged-in culture, our lives are hectic and our schedules are packed. Here are some ideas to improve intimacy in your marriage.
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Romance in a Busy Marriage

For mothers, parenting children can be an enemy of romance. Check out these practical tips for reining in a busy lifestyle.
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4 Tips for Giving Grace in Your Marriage

4 Tips for Giving Grace in Your Marriage

Don’t let little issues grow into resentment and isolation.
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8 Steps for Redeeming Your Marriage Relation...

The next time you and your spouse find yourselves in a “discussion,” follow these steps for resolving relational conflicts in marriage.
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Choose Your Conflict Style

It's nearly impossible to connect your life to another and not have significant disagreements. These ideas will help you direct your conflicts in a positive way.
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Avoiding the Tough Conversations

Let me encourage you to step into the relationship rather than away from it. Be courageous.
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Do You Have Unrealistic Expectations for Your Marriage?

Do You Have Unrealistic Expectations for You...

Because God is faithful, powerful, and willing, you can be realistic and hopeful about your marriage at the very same time.
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Emotionally Destructive Relationship Questionnaire

Emotionally Destructive Relationship Questio...

Help in evaluating the emotional health of your marriage.
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Enslaved by Bitterness

These three steps will help you restore freedom in your life.
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Fighting Fair

A few ground rules can transform verbal brawls into a communication breakthrough.
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I Love Fall So Ill Overlook Halloween

One of the most important principles for resolving conflicts or differences in relationships is overlooking an offense.
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My Husband Is an Overbearing Jerk … an...

When did our culture decide that marriage was supposed to be light and fluffy?
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My Mate Is Not My Enemy

My Spouse Is Not My Enemy

Viewing your spouse as a gift from God is a life-changing perspective.
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She Learned Her Lessons the Hard Way

Practical suggestions that any married couple could apply—no matter how healthy your relationship.
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Speaking the Truth in Love

It's all in the way you package it.
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Tired of Fighting About the Same Things?

Here are three principles that can help you address the issues that keep popping up to disrupt your marriage relationship.
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When Conflict Keeps Popping Up

When Conflict Keeps Popping Up

Some issues in a marriage demand ongoing engagement.
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Who Is Your Closest Neighbor

What could be closer than your own home, and who could be closer than your own spouse.
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Whose Fault Is It?

Recognizing and fixing a fatal flaw in many marriages: the blame trap.
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Why Do We Keep Arguing?

Once we understood each other’s dreams, and once we each realized what the other person was valuing, our attitudes changed.
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She Was Ready to Leave Her Husband

She Was Ready to Leave Her Husband

Before she got a divorce, her mother had one task for her to complete.
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Are You in an Abusive Relationship?

An abuser typically has a well-stocked arsenal of ways to exert power over you.
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11 Reasons Couples Come to a Weekend to Reme...

Why would husbands and wives devote an entire weekend to a seminar designed to improve their marriage relationship? Here's what they tell us.
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How to have a Successful Marriage

8 Keys to a Successful Marriage

Looking back, it was easy for us to fall in love. But staying in love, well … that takes hard work.
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There Is Nothing Sexier Than a Man Who Prays

Four things men can do when initiating prayer.
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An Investment in Your Marriage

Even before I began working for FamilyLife, I used to tell people that the Weekend to Remember® was the “best conference I’ve ever attended.” Merry and I went when we were engaged, and we’ve attended several times since then. The weekend provided an invaluable foundation for our marriage—a clear biblical understanding of God’s purposes for […]
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The Ashley Madison Bomb

If your name is on the Ashley Madison list, or if you have some other secret infidelity like pornography or strip clubs, here are some steps to take right now.
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They Got an Annulment for Their Divorce

Alex and Jill Averitt learned that nothing is impossible for God.
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Do We Have to Talk About Submission?

Submission is one of those often caricatured, rarely understood parts of the Christian life.
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Principles to Keep Christ at the Center of My Home

10 Principles to Keep Christ at the Center o...

God has a purpose for our lives and for the homes where we spend those lives.
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Balancing romance with roles as wife and mother

Those Little ‘Foxes’ That Rob Ma...

How do you balance motherhood with being an attractive, romantic, interesting wife?
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She Never Gave Up on Her Husband

Tom Flippin resisted God nearly all his life. But in the end, God answered his wife’s prayers.
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Becoming the Man of Her Dreams

Your wife needs you to pursue a relationship with her—not just when you want sex, but as a way of life.
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Honoring and Encouraging Our Wives

First Peter 3:7 tells me to live with my wife “in an understanding way” and to “grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life.”
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Memories That Make Us One

During the first two days of our recent vacation in western Montana, the air was filled with smoke from forest fires. My wife, Merry, and I could barely make out the outline of the Bitterroot Mountains. Then a cold front swept out the smoke … and replaced it with rain and low-hanging clouds. We drove […]
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What Happens When Couples Pray

Seven stories of couples who decided to make prayer a daily discipline.
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20 Ideas for Dating Your Wife

Only you know how to best cultivate and guard the woman God has given you.
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The Legacy of a Love Letter

High touch in a time of high tech.
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Balancing the Family Budget

Five pointers that will benefit any couple.
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The Freedom of Forgiveness

The result of obeying God and forgiving your spouse is not bondage, but freedom.
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Praying Together Makes Our Joy Complete

A radio listener tells how God used the radio to get her attention.
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‘Are You Pregnant With My Husband’s Chil...

A story of impossible forgiveness and amazing grace.
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The Danger of Flirting

Protect your marriage by watching how you talk with the opposite sex, even in jest.
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Remembering How God Is Working

Letters from a Weekend to Remember marriage getaway show that people are still hungry to know Christ.
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4 Reminders for the Directionally Challenged

Some would call me “directionally-challenged.” While my husband, Jim, seems to know where he is at all times, I have difficulty following a map or someone’s directions. I’ve been lost more often than I’d like to admit. It happened again when I went to visit a new friend who lives in the country. She gave […]
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A Real Life Vacation

My wife, Merry, and I have enjoyed some wonderful, adventurous, and romantic vacations over the years. We’ve been on trips to London, New England, Montana, Oregon, Washington D.C., New York City. We’ve relaxed on sunny beaches in Hawaii, Florida, and South Carolina. And then we’ve taken lots of vacations like the one last week: working […]
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Astonished at Radical Obedience

If your spouse wouldn’t talk to you for a day or two, you’d probably find it difficult. But what if your spouse refused to speak for three years? That was the situation June Sims faced after 34 years of marriage to her husband, Lamar. As you can read in a fascinating article by Mary Larmoyeux, Lamar […]
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What Every Husband Needs to Know

Most men are not necessarily unwilling to meet their wife's needs; they simply are unaware of what those needs really are.
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Don’t Get Stuck in the Empty Nest

As we've moved through this new season of our lives, we've realized that God has something great planned for our future together.
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Three Pitfalls to Avoid in an Empty Nest Mar...

When your kids leave the home, you are forced to consider your marriage relationship in a new light.
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8 Ways to Protect Your Marriage

These suggestions will help you stand firm in the battle for a strong marriage.
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A Hollywood Ending

The true story of a husband, a wife, and an online affair.
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Affair Repair for Your Marriage

Can a Christian marriage survive an affair? Mine did.
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Avoiding Emotional Adultery

As I began to delve once again into God's Word, I recognized three steps I should have taken when faced with the temptation.
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Found With Another Man

Strange as it may seem, it was a relief when I realized my husband knew my secret.
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Infidelity’s Warning Signs

Be on guard for your spouse … and yourself.
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Lust Love and Loyalty

As I read through several articles about an MSNBC.com/iVillage survey “Lust, Love & Loyalty," I was struck by the fact that I was reading a lot more about lust and love than I was about loyalty.
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My Wife’s Affair Shattered and Saved O...

Our marriage was a mess, and we needed to break a lot of bad habits in how we related to each other.
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Rental Car: $211.15 … Protecting My Marria...

Some women would feel comfortable taking a four-hour drive to the airport with a trusted male friend. I didn’t.
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Sharing Past Extramarital Affairs with Your...

Your affair may have ended in the past, but unless it's dealt with, it will continue to impact the present and threaten the future.
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The Unmasking of an Online Affair

I was so trapped in my sin that I didn't know how to break free.
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Every Marriage Needs Renewal and Refreshment

“Just a week before the I Still Do™ event,” she said, “I used the ‘D word’ against my husband in front of our daughters.”  The “D word” is “divorce.” And that’s a word that children don’t like to hear from the lips of their parents.  “My 9-year-old broke down and cried, exclaiming ‘What’s happening?’ She […]
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Every Marriage Needs Renewal and Refreshment

Comments from the I Still Do event show the power of getting away to get it together.
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Walking Through Tragedy: Looking for Graces

The blessings that took place in my life after tragedy gave me hope and reminded me that there was someone larger than this life who is in control.
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When a Spouse Dies

Sometimes the futility of life strikes hard and we're forced to look for the hidden treasures.
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Are You Done Making a Difference?

Too many men over 55 think their best days are behind them. It’s time to resurrect the noble mantle of “patriarch.”
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Dancing With the Stars? Not Exactly.

I learned more than rhythm while taking dancing lessons with my husband.
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Loving the Prime Time Years

Part of our passion is encouraging couples to determine how God can use them after their children leave the nest.
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Overcoming Loneliness When Your Children Leave the Nest

Overcoming Loneliness When Your Children Lea...

Adjusting to a new reality can be an especially difficult task.
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Overcoming the Challenges of an Empty Nest

A couple can either move toward the death of their relationship, or look forward to what this new season of marriage has to offer.
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The Midlife Question: Who Am I?

When you define your identity vertically, you will be able to stand even when the things around you are passing away.
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This Old Sack of Bones

The older we grow, the more our bodies deteriorate. And that's not necessarily bad.
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5 Principles for Living With Less … and Li...

Learning to be content with enough.
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Lessons From a Memorial Service

I have been challenged by Kathy Helvey's life and legacy.
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Bringing Back the Sabbath

Many of us have forgotten or never learned how to rest.
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How to Say ‘Yes’ to Forgiveness

It's very difficult to ask God to forgive those who hurt us, especially when the hurt runs deep.
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Twenty Ways to Pray for Your Wife

This topical list will guide you to praying for your wife in every area of her life.
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Ten Things a Husband Can Say When His Wife F...

Here is some advice that can help you navigate these waters successfully, including a few good lines that always work.
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6 No-No’s for Relating to Your Woman

If you want to understand and love your wife, here are some things you should never do.
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8 Mistakes I’ve Made in Marriage

After 25 years, I can see a few things I should never have done (and sometimes still do).
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Do You Have the Courage to Take Your Spiritu...

These five suggestions are not for the weak of heart.
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He’s Been Gone for Years

We talk about how important marriage and family is, but where are we directing our emotional energy each day?
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How to Frustrate Your Wife

Two ways husbands can leave their wives needing more.
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I Married Wonder Woman … Now What?

Valuing your wife above everything.
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Manhood Is Knowing Where the Plunger Is

We should resist the highly-romanticized modern visions of manhood and look to Christ as the true model.
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Give Your Wife a Mom’s Night Out

When my husband surprises me with a night out, he shows me that he has a sincere desire for me to have some time to myself. And that makes my heart soar.
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Praying for Your Wife

If you want to pray significantly for your wife, stay tuned to her needs.
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What Did Jesus Do?

How do you love your wife as Christ loves the church? For husbands, this involves understanding what Christ does for us, thinks of us, and becomes for us.
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What Will Be Your Legacy?

A challenge for men to become the sacrificial lovers and servant-leaders of their families.
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What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Me...

Husband's don't need to 'fix' the problem, just show that they care.
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Who’s Wearing the Pants in Your Family...

Why is it that some men can initiate great tasks and conquer overwhelming obstacles at work and remain so passive in relationships or in leading at home?
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Why Can’t Women Just Come Out and Say...

Whatever you mean by the statement, it doesn't cut it with husbands in the truth department.
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Why Do I Act Like I Don’t Love My Wife...

It’s the underside of marriage, the reality of living with someone day in and day out in a fallen world. We need to see ourselves as we really are.
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Frequent Forgiveness

Even after more than 40 years together, our need to forgive each other is as fresh as it was on our wedding day.
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If You Were Sexually Involved Before Marriag...

I believe a negative attitude about sex wages war against Christian marriages.
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A Ship With Plenty of Power

Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine, co-hosts of FamilyLife Today®, returned recently from FamilyLife’s third annual Love Like You Mean It™ cruise.  The same week of the LLYMI cruise, another cruise ship made headlines when it lost power and had to be towed back to port, but Dennis reports that the LLYMI cruise had plenty of […]
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Changing a Sour Attitude: The Readers Respon...

I could tell I touched a nerve in my recent Marriage Memo on “How Do You Change a Bad Attitude?”.  When I asked for input from readers, quite a few began by admitting to the same problem.  “I have found myself in the position you describe far more times that I like to admit,” one […]
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Give Your Wife a ‘Moms’ Night Ou...

Moms need to recharge, to be appreciated and encouraged. Not just once a year, but every day.
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Meet America’s Longest-Married Couple

John Betar and Ann Shawah grew up across the street from each other in Bridgeport, Connecticut.  They fell in love, but her father had arranged for her to be married to a man 20 years her senior.  So John and Ann eloped.   That was in 1932.  John and Ann recently celebrated their 81st anniversary, […]
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My FamilyLife: Connecting Through Your Smart...

There’s no doubt about it—for many people, life seems to revolve around the smartphone.  It’s their connection to friends and family.  It’s their source of information and entertainment and distraction. It’s what they use to read and listen and watch.  It’s their phone, their camera, their map, their appointment calendar, their address and phone book, […]
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Readers Comment on Date Nights

In a recent Marriage Memo, “Reclaiming Date Night,” Suzanne Thomas wrote of her dismay after asking FamilyLife Facebook readers about what they do for date nights with their spouses. “I expected people to respond with some creative ideas, but I was surprised at the response,” she wrote, “Nearly everyone said they have no date nights […]
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Readers Talk About Negotiating the New Norma...

After Dennis Rainey’s June 10 Marriage Memo, “Establishing the ‘New Normal’ in Your Marriage,” a number of readers wrote to tell about the struggles they faced with this issue.  As Dennis wrote of the “new normal” dilemma: Each of you brings a different background and a different set of expectations into your marriage.  Your family […]
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Meet America’s Longest-Married Couple

Eighty-one years ago, John and Ann Betar were told their marriage wouldn’t last.
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I Needed to Know He Loved Me

My husband knew me—dark and light—and he loved me anyway.
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Let It Go

Bitterness often costs us more than forgiving would, even if forgiving doesn't seem fair.
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“Letting Go” in Emotionally Destructive Relationships

Letting Go in Emotionally Destructive Relati...

Three steps for experiencing healing and growing in maturity.
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10 Ways to Create a More Romantic Bedroom

The bedroom should be a place where love and romance are cultivated, encouraged, and celebrated. And yet it is often treated as a storeroom for clutter.
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4 Ideas to Improve Your Lovemaking

Your sexual relationship can be an oasis for the two of you in marriage. These ideas can help relief from routine and a refuge from stress.
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How to increase romance with your wife

Before You Touch Her Body

For romance to deepen, here is a truth that should be emblazoned on the heart of every husband.
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10 Ideas to Help You Renew Romance in Spring

This spring, why not bring back to life the buds of romance you once enjoyed? These ideas can help you make romance come alive in the season of new birth.
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Keeping the Love Tank Full

Marriage is designed to meet the need for intimacy and love. Perhaps deep inside a hurting couple is an invisible "emotional love tank" with its gauge on empty.
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More Than a Love Letter

Words don't cost anything, and yet when used the right way they are priceless ... truly a gift of the heart.
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Overcome the barriers to romance and sex

Not in the Mood? Ask Yourself, ‘Why No...

Whether it’s bad breath, a headache, or hot flashes, something often gets in the way of sex. Here are some ways to overcome roadblocks to intimacy in your marriage.
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Dealing with a large weight gain in your spouse.
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QA Reviving a Diminishing Sex Drive

Communication is the key to making intimacy thrive.
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Rekindling the Fire of Romance

It doesn't require much money to revitalize the spark of romance in marriage. What you do need is the commitment to do it.
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Romantic Ways to Fan the Flames

Ten creative ways to add some sugar and spice to your marriage.
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The Power of Touch

Twenty-five suggestions for non-sexual touching.
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The Marriages We Admire

Responses from readers show that the love you demonstrate for your spouse will be one of your greatest legacies.
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Reader Responses: Marriages We Most Admire

Editor’s note, May 2015:  In a recent FamilyLife contest, participants were asked, “What marriage do you most admire, and why?”  Here’s a selection of their responses.  For more, read “The Marriages We Admire.” 1. My former pastor and his wife … they are both with the Lord now.  They had very different strengths but they […]
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Their Marriage Was a Train Wreck

Roger and Tonya Haskin had no clue about marriage.
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Bitterness Is Like a Dirty Diaper

Forgiveness is the key to getting rid of the nasty emotions churning inside you.
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Forgiving the Unforgivable: Marital Unfaithf...

My husband could not ignore the fact that I had an affair, but he chose to let go of my offense. Then I had to learn how to receive it.
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Help! I Married a Sinner

It didn't take long for me to realize my spouse would fail. It gave me the opportunity to practice what I preached.
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It All Starts With the Cross

Kirk and Chelsea Cameron describe what has made their “Hollywood marriage” work.
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What It Means to Forgive

Thinking about forgiveness in terms of four basic decisions helps us forgive others the way God forgives us.
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When It’s Hard to Forgive

As Christians, we can excuse the unforgivable in others because God has excused the unforgivable in us.
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5 Things We Can Do to Build Up Marriage

The most important cultural question is not, “What are we going to do about same-sex marriage?” It’s, “What are we going to do about marriage?”
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An ‘Oh, Wow!’ Insight on Marriag...

After one of my messages, a man told me about the turning point in his marriage relationship.
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Grow into true intimacy

Are You Settling for Artificial Intimacy?

A good marriage isn't something you find; it's something you make. And you have to keep on making it.
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Married for 71 Years

Who doesn’t enjoy a good story? Especially a love story? As a writer for FamilyLife, I’ve had the privilege of interviewing lots of men and women about their marriages and families. But no one has been married as long as Orvil and Edith Thomas. Their commitment to one another has never wavered for more than […]
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My First Christmas Without Laurie

On July 8, 2009, my wife Laurie was diagnosed with breast cancer. Almost three long years later, she died on April 4, 2012. Soon my two sons and I will have our first Christmas without Mom. Although it hasn’t been easy, I am filled with hope. Like lots of other people I know, Laurie and […]
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Wedding and marriage

The Big Fat Cheap Wedding

Many couples today view the wedding as a celebration of what they’ve attained rather than a commitment to spending their lives together.
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I’m Not Going Anywhere

In marriage we need a love that is faithful to the end—because Christians are a people who lean into the covenant of grace.
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Would They Throw Away 22 Years of Marriage?

Tracey Penrod refused to give up when she learned her husband was having an affair with his ex-wife.
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God Answers Prayer

A Weekend to Remember prayer team volunteer tells his story.
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An Extra Reason for Rejoicing

by Abraham Lara As Christmas day approaches many of you will be finishing last-minute details at work, or driving to Grandma’s house, or shopping for groceries before the big meal.  As we gather with friends and family to celebrate Christmas, I am reminded of couples who have an extra reason for rejoicing this year.  Couples […]
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How Do You Change a Bad Attitude

I knew I had a bad attitude, but I couldn’t break out of it.
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A Remodeled Barn and a Transformed Marriage

Jim and Penny Nally's barn was once a sore spot in their troubled marriage, but now is a place of hope.
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When Strangers Observe Your Relationship, Wh...

Our world is in desperate need of married couples who strive to love and to serve each other.
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My FamilyLife: Connecting Through Your Smart...

FamilyLife's new smartphone app is a tool to help you improve communication and cultivate your marriage relationship.
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Wedding and marriage

What Makes an Unforgettable Wedding?

Why is God so often absent from our ceremonies, except as a token prayer or Scripture reading?
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Would She Choose Her Husband … or Her Fath...

An unexpected trial in the early years of one marriage.
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8 Decisions That Will Define Your Marriage

How we answered these questions set the direction and foundation for our married life.
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3 Questions That Can Transform a Marriage

No matter what your situation, I'm confident that there is hope for any marriage.
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Doing Nothing Is Not an Option

Join us in standing firm for families and committing to faithfulness in marriage.
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When your marriage or family are in crisis

When Your Marriage or Family is in Crisis

Here are four biblical reminders when you face serious family problems.
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Do You Need Counseling

Evaluate the issue you're facing to determine the level of help you need.
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National Counseling and Conflict Resolution Organizations
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A Final Gift to a Grieving Wife

In death as in life, my brother reflected Christ’s love and compassion.
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What Are You Worth?

If people can come to grips with the real purpose of money and understand the truth about it from God's perspective, their lives and marriages will benefit greatly.
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40 Things Husbands Should Stop Doing

Some down-to-earth, practical advice for men who want to step up to their responsibilities.
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Why the 50/50 Plan Won’t Work in Marri...

If you're keeping score in your marriage, you're in trouble.
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Wishing He Were Your Husband

When you're caught in emotional adultery, these four steps will help guide your heart back to your spouse.
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The Popular Sport of Male Bashing

Your spouse is likely to reflect what he or she hears and feels from you
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Refresh Your Lovemaking

Here are 18 tips we think your husband will love.
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Q & A: Respecting Your Husband for the L...

What to do when you lose respect for your husband.
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Q & A: Encouraging Husbands to Lead Spir...

It's important to realize there are different ways to give spiritual leadership in the home.
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50 Ideas to Inspire Your Husband

A wife has the unique ability to help her husband feel the freedom to reach his fullest potential as the man God has created him to be.
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3 Things Your Spouse Needs to Hear

These simple, heartfelt statements will deepen your love for each other.
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A Tribute to Barbara

As their 40th anniversary approached, Dennis wrote the following letter to his wife.
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Its All About Commitment

Keeping your vows, not just saying them, is what builds a strong union
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10 Ideas: Workday Encouragement

Even simple acts of support can give your spouse the boost he or she needs during a busy work week.
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30 Ways to Start a Conversation With Your Sp...

A list to keep you talking with your spouse for a whole month.
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A Small Harbor of Reconnection

Just a five-second look helped connect my mom and dad during a frenzy of activity.
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Do You Really Need Your Spouse?

True partnerships are cemented by couples who frequently and specifically verbalize their need of one another.
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Q&A: Engaging an Unresponsive Spouse

Recognizing what is your responsibility and what you need to leave in God's hands.
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Reclaiming Date Night

Intentional sharing and meaningful time together are too important to the health of your marriage to be neglected.
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Scriptures to Help Guide You Through Your In...

Ten Bible verses to help family communication.
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Talking Through Difficult Issues

You can’t avoid the tough conversations in marriage, but you can conduct them in a way that will ultimately bring you closer to your spouse.
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The Bass I Found on the Bargain Rack

Using word pictures was the key to communication in our marriage.
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The Power of Words

One of the greatest challenges of marriage is how you speak to your spouse.
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Why It’s Important to Get Away With Yo...

When did you last have time to talk about the important things of life?
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Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages

Research shows that five little things separate great relationships from the rest.
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Does God Rule Your Mundane?

Seeking grace and serving God in the midst of ordinary days.
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Divorce Changes the Flavor of Memories

How many couples considering divorce underestimate the impact it will have on their children?
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Family Recipes

Editor’s Note:  Here are three recipes mentioned on the July 12, 2014, broadcast of FamilyLife This Week®. The bon bon recipe is very old; if you try to make it, we hope that you are successful and have fun! Bon Bons (Dalcie Rainey)  2 cups sugar 1/2 cup white corn syrup 1/2 cup whipping cream […]
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No Matter What, I Still Do

Every day, good or bad, my husband and I remain committed to our marriage
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Does Your Spouse Annoy You?

Accepting your differences will help you mature beyond the downsides of your personalities.
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Is Marriage All About You

In 2007 the Pew Research Center surveyed over 2,000 Americans for a study on attitudes about marriage and family. In one of the questions, participants were asked: Here is a list of things which some people think make for a successful marriage. Please tell me, for each one, whether you think it is very important, […]
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Raising Kids in a Spiritually Mismatched Hom...

Regardless of how we arrived in our unequally yoked marriage, we are part of God's plans and our spiritually mismatched homes are vital to His purposes.
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After 70 Years of Marriage, They Both Died W...

The love story of Kenneth and Helen Felumlee was anything but ordinary
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I Thought I Married the Wrong Person

My husband and I couldn’t stand one another.
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‘I Prayed This Would Be the Miracle We...

A testimony from I Still Do™.
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‘Now We’re Committed to Spending...

A testimony from I Still Do™.
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Marriage Requires Humility

Every day, the world bombards you with messages of power, independence, and control. Jesus tells you the opposite: Die to yourself.
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Is It Okay to ‘Go Ahead and Shack Up&...

A recent study suggests that cohabiting couples do not face a greater risk of divorce after they marry. But the whole picture is a bit more complicated.
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Believe the Gospel Today

Reaffirming the truth of the gospel each day is the most important thing we can do to mature in our faith and to build a stronger marriage and healthier family.
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Holy Spirit Love

Moving from loving yourself to loving others.
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Treat Him Like a Man

Love your husband without expectation and respect him as the man God created him to be.
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Watching God at Work

When I see God using us to change lives, it stokes my passion for families.
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Connecting With Your Spouse

Two tips for battling the “illusion of permanence” in your marriage relationship.
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They Each Had Secrets

Learning God's principles for marriage the hard way.
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Faith and Hypocrisy in the Family

The home may be the place where it’s most difficult to live out our faith—and also the most important.
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40 Lessons From 40 Years of Marriage

 
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The Humpty Dumpty Syndrome

Our modern notion of "falling in love" is based on feelings. And following your feelings can get you hurt.
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21 Things a Man Needs to Know About Marriage

In a culture of counterfeits and mistruths, marriage needs to be re-branded as an awesome, noble, and challenging adventure.
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7 More Things a Man Should Know About Marria...

In a culture of counterfeits and mistruths, marriage needs to be re-branded as an awesome, noble, and challenging adventure.
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7 Things a Man Needs to Know About Marriage

In a culture of counterfeits and mistruths, marriage needs to be re-branded as an awesome, noble, and challenging adventure.
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Your Husband's Two Biggest Fears

Your Husband’s Two Biggest Fears

You can do something about your husband’s twin fears. In fact, he will never get over them without you.
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Making Those Early-Marriage Adjustments

Couples quickly learn that adjustments are inevitable and necessary in the first years of marriage.
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5 Lessons I’ve Already Learned as a New Husband

5 Lessons I’ve Already Learned as a Ne...

Whether you’re six months or 60 years into your marriage, God can and will continue to teach you about how to become the man He wants you to be.
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5 Lessons I’ve Already Learned as a New Wife

5 Lessons I’ve Already Learned as a Ne...

Here are some practical things I discovered during my first six months of marriage.
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What It Means to Be God’s Man

5 things to share with boys about being men of God.
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Reader Responses What Husbands Appreciate Ab...

We asked husbands, “What is one thing you most appreciate about your wives this Thanksgiving?” Here are the replies we received by email.   1. I love the insight into our children’s’ hearts that my wife, Karla, brings into our marriage. She is a wonderful household manager who performs miracles of joyous memories, sometimes with […]
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Reader Responses What Wives Appreciate About...

We asked wives, “What is one thing you most appreciate about your husband this Thanksgiving?”  Here are the replies we received by email.   1. Terry loves me no matter what my faults are. —Barbara Robinson 2. Well… to be honest… for quite a few years I wondered and struggled with how my husband could […]
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Habits Grooves and Ruts

When Tommy Nelson began his teaching series from an Old Testament book, his church in Denton, Tex., had about 700 people. Within a few weeks, attendance was up to 1,400. His service for college students grew from 300 to over 700. And what Old Testament book was the focus of this pastor’s messages? Would you […]
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Coping With a Difficult Ex-Spouse

These 10 tips will help you in your discouragement.
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12 Tests of Love

Understanding the difference between love and infatuation.
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Why Sex Is So Important to Your Wife

God created sex in marriage to be shared, not withheld.
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8 Lies That Destroy Marriage

Every wrong behavior begins with believing a lie.
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Does a Good God Want Me in a Bad Marriage?

Does a Good God Want Me in a Bad Marriage?

Even though we seldom can see how God uses trials for our future benefit, He has promised to use them for good, and He is faithful to keep His word.
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25 Great Expectations for Your Marriage

Most couples face common challenges in marriage. If you don't discuss and resolve the differences between you and your spouse, you're headed for rough marital waters.
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Readers Comment on Date Nights

Many who wrote echoed the words of one reader who said, “I think date night is vital to a marriage.”
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Reader comments date night

In a Marriage Memo on the value of date nights in marriage, we asked readers to share comments and ideas.  Here are their responses. 1. Oh I am so, so, so very sad to hear that so many couples are not finding a way to create regular date nights … and by regular I really […]
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No Borders for HomeBuilders

Protecting our marriage as we protect our country.
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Helping Military Marriages

A partnership between FamilyLife and Cru's Military Ministry is affecting families around the world.
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Helping Couples Thrive During Deployment

Through our HomeBuilders study, we want to help military couples who are facing deployment learn to rely on God's power through their separation.
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Coming Home After War

Allowing Christ to reset the course of your life.
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The Myth of the “Sophisticated Divorce...

The idea that the ending of a marriage can be anything but devastating is a fantasy that all divorced parents want and so few achieve.
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Hiding Naked: When Sex Replaces Commitment

For many, sex has become a hiding place–a behavior that presents the appearance of intimacy, but is really striving for self-protection.
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A Time for Hope

Bill and Jerrie Barnett have seen God transform their lives and their marriage.
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We Couldn’t Stop Arguing

How a Weekend to Remember marriage conference strengthened our marriage.
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Loving the Way Jesus Loves

Everywhere I go, and in every relationship I have in life, I need more of the love of Jesus.
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4 Reminders for the Directionally Challenged

It's never too late to turn around a dying marriage.
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Put Yourself in Your Husband’s Shoes

In order to truly appreciate my husband, I need to practice empathy.
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Surviving Tragedy: A Couple’s Story of Hop...

After the fire, Gary and Rachele Lightsey wondered how they could go on.
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You Have a Special Power in the Life of Your...

We all need the support of friends, family, and mentors. But there’s nothing like the love and encouragement of your spouse.
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Readers Talk About Negotiating the New Norma...

Communication is the key—even if it begins with an argument.
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Establishing the New Normal in Your Marriage

Each of you brings a different background and a different set of expectations into your marriage. Here's how to establish the 'new normal.'
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How to Make a Marriage

There is a false and harmful notion that a good relationship is something you find, when in fact it is something you make.
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You Reap What You Sow

Ways to invest in the future of your marriage.
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When Your Spouse Breaks Your Heart

You have a choice—you can go through the experience or grow through it.
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Leaving Your Parents: The Balancing Act

Leaving Your Parents Is a Balancing Act

During the first years of marriage (and sometimes for years afterward), it’s not easy to leave your parents while also honoring them.
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Finding a Christian Counselor

It's important to make an informed decision about each counselor you consider.
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Married to Daddy’s Little Girl

Ten ideas for dealing with a wife who won’t “leave and cleave.”
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Weekend to Remember Stories

Stories of resurrected marriages Stories of good marriages strengthened Stories of couples who got married after living together Salvation stories At FamilyLife, we love to tell stories about what God does in families. He saves marriages. He strengthens homes. He changes lives for eternity through the gospel of Jesus Christ.   We hope that you will […]
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What Makes a Marriage Distinctively Christia...

Two factors that make a marriage distinctively Christian.
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A Ship With Plenty of Power

A report on the 2013 Love Like You Mean It cruise.
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After Three Years of Living Together, She Wa...

How Lance and Jess Miller learned about God's plan for marriage.
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Changing a Sour Attitude: The Readers Respon...

Marriage Memo readers offer some practical and biblical advice.
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Reader Responses: How Do You Change a Bad At...

In his article, "How Do You Change a Bad Attitude," Dave Boehi asked for ideas from readers.  Here are 50 of the emails we received.
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Reader Responses: How Do You Change a Bad At...

In his article, “How Do You Change a Bad Attitude?” Dave Boehi asked for ideas for readers. Below find the second group of emails we received.  Want to read the first 50?  Find them here. 51. I’ve always thought that attitude is a choice.  You can choose to be let a bad situation get you […]
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What It Means to Be God’s Woman

5 things to share with girls about being women of God.
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How Do You Change a Bad Attitude

After a Christmas storm knocked out electricity, my biggest struggle was dealing with a sour mood.
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3 Truths to Cling to During Suffering

Deep pain brings us to the end of ourselves, but these principles help make sense of life in the aftermath of incredible loss.
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An Extra Reason for Rejoicing

As Christmas day approaches many of you will be finishing last-minute details at work, or driving to Grandma’s house, or shopping for groceries before the big meal.  As we gather with friends and family to celebrate Christmas, I am reminded of couples who have an extra reason for rejoicing this year. Couples like Drew and […]
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My First Christmas Without Laurie

A young widower shares his struggles.
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Stories of Changed Lives and Transformed Leg...

We hope that you will be encouraged as you read the following stories of real people. Nothing is impossible with God!
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The Final Showdown

And so it comes to this: Two men finally facing off in a winner-take-all contest. Both men are successful and accomplished, yet both have walked through the valley of defeat.  Both live with the fact that fame and job security is fleeting. Both men are supported by millions and both are ridiculed and condemned when […]
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Understanding the Deeper Purposes of Sex

Until we understand why God created sex, we won't make sense of His commands regarding sexual purity, for His commands always relate to His purposes.
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Recovering From a Double Mastectomy

How my husband’s love helped me understand that my breasts didn’t define me as a woman.
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Reader Responses to 50 Shades of Caution

Following are reader responses to the Marriage Memo of June 18, 2012, “Fifty Shades of Caution,” by Dave Boehi.  You can read additional comments at the end of the online article. 1. I totally agree with you.   Thanks for the warning about this book.   I haven’t really heard much about it until I recently read […]
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Memories That Make Us One

A marriage is built on shared memories over the years.
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Married for 71 Years

Who doesn’t enjoy a good story? Especially a love story? As a writer for FamilyLife, I’ve had the privilege of interviewing lots of men and women about their marriages and families. But no one has been married as long as Orvil and Edith Thomas. Their commitment to one another has never wavered for more than […]
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Marriage Secrets From the Real Experts

“Looking back, I’ve caused us a lot of grief simply because I was a bulldozer. Bulldozers are powerful machines.” “I was a very obstinate guy and wanted things to go my way. Unfortunately … I even hate to admit it … I cheated on my wife for about 10 years of our marriage. She never […]
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Date Night With Teens

1 Date + 8 Teens = 0 Romance Okay, so maybe it wasn’t the smartest equation I have ever calculated. But my heart was in the right place! Hubby and I have attempted to make most Friday nights our “date nights” from the time our children were toddlers. They have always been “at home” dates, […]
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God Is Working

FamilyLife President Dr. Dennis Rainey spoke at the 2009 Weekend to Remember® marriage conference in Grapevine, Texas, before nearly 4,000 people. During the weekend he wrote some impressions of how God is working through the cause of the family to touch the lives of people across America and even around the world. Saturday, February 14 […]
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I Need My Vacation

One of my bedrock, foundational beliefs in life is: Take your vacation time. Another is: Enjoy your vacation time. That sounds simple, but I’ve been surprised by the number of people I’ve encountered over the years who say they often don’t use up their allotted vacation days. Not me. I know I need my vacation. […]
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I Need My Vacation

Lessons my wife and I have learned about how to enjoy time off.
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God Is Working

Impressions from the largest Weekend to Remember conference in 33 years.
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Date Night With Teens

Recent plans for our regular date night were derailed for my husband and me.
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Can You Fall in Love Again With Your Spouse?

It is hard work, but someone must be willing to be the first to break the cycle if a relationship is to be restored.
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Astonished at Radical Obedience

Sometimes God calls us to follow Him in situations that seem foolish to many in the world.
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An Investment in Your Marriage

Whether you’re preparing for marriage or looking for a refresher, you and your spouse can benefit from a Weekend to Remember marriage conference.
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A Real Life Vacation

Sometimes marriage is warm sea breezes … and sometimes it’s the pungent smell of drying paint.
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You Have to Work at It Every Day

I recently read five articles about marriage in one day. Guess which was my favorite?
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What Did You Do With My Real Parents?

One of the favorite letters FamilyLife has received over the years was from a grown daughter who expressed her amazement at the changes in her parents after they attended a Weekend to Remember marriage getaway.
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Love and Laughter

The God who created the giggle box gave us the privilege of using it.
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Is Marriage All About You

Here is a list of things which some people think make for a successful marriage.
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God Is Working in Marriages Today

People need God’s blueprints for marriage and family now more than ever.
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Becoming Best Friends

My friendship with Jim is built on a foundation of 37 years of shared adventures
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How Would You Define Love?

This perspective can make your marriage an oasis in the middle of a thirsty culture. It can give you the ability to love for a lifetime.
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“I Now Understand That God Truly Wants...

A participant in a pilot showing of The Art of Marriage® shares his experience
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I’m Glad They Stayed Together

My parents could have taken the easy way out, but they chose to remain committed because it was the right thing to do.
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A Weekend for Marriage Maintenance

Merry and I just returned from a Weekend to Remember® marriage conference at the Gaylord Texan resort in the Dallas/Fort Worth area. When you stay at the Gaylord Texan, it’s hard not to rave about the incredible setting; the hotel’s huge atrium is a wonderland of streams, vegetation, and winding paths evoking different regions of […]
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A Yearly Surprise

A few weeks ago I received a phone call from my oldest friend, Mark Allen. He and I met as kindergartners in Eugene, Ore., and went through school together until we graduated from high school. He was calling to say that he and his wife, Jenny, would be visiting Branson, Mo., for a business conference, […]
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Building a Marriage According to Biblical Bl...

If there is one thing that continually reminds me of the importance of reaching out to families, it’s the e-mail we receive here at FamilyLife. The stories people tell reveal a common thread: People today are hungry to learn how to build a good marriage, and when they learn how to build it according to […]
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A Weekend for Marriage Maintenance

Reflections on our trip to the Weekend to Remember marriage conference.
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A Yearly Surprise

Some friends explain how their tradition of going on a getaway each year keeps their marriage strong.
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Building a Marriage According to Biblical Bl...

A Weekend to Remember® marriage conference is an investment that can make even a strong marriage stronger.
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Can God Do the Impossible in a Marriage?

When a husband and wife turn their lives and their marriages over to God, amazing things happen.
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Tom Brady’s Boo Boo

It's probably going to happen to each of us—in a time of frustration, we’ll say something negative we regret.
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Is it Really “Nobody’s” Fa...

If we believe in marriage like we say we do, it's time to start taking responsibility for our relationships.
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Accountability With Your Spouse

Scripture proclaims the value of mutual support or accountability in marriage.
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Good Things Happen Over Coffee

Our devotional time together is my favorite part of our marriage.
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Can Marriage Get Better Over Time

High expectations for marriage don’t have to result in disillusionment.
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Don’t Do Marriage Alone

These "connecting" components will help you grow spiritually as a couple beyond your expectations.
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Are You Helping Your Husband Follow His Drea...

Passion in life isn’t just something that happens; it must be sought.
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He’s Not Your Dad, You’re Not Hi...

Your marital relationship will change significantly when your baby comes.
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Helping Your Marriage Thrive After a New Bab...

Your marital relationship will change significantly when your baby comes.
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Your Husband Needs to Be Cherished Too

Admiring your husband is no less important now than it was the day you got married.
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He Just Won’t Talk to Me

How to understand your husband and get the intimacy you long for.
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A Demonstration of Faith

When Gary was ready to become the leader in our home, I had to learn to trust in God and allow my husband to perform his God-given role.
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I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar

A woman's tongue has the power to build up or tear down her marriage.
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Combating the Marriage Meltdown

Four steps to save your marriage when things go wrong.
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How Do I Make Love With Children Wrapped Aro...

With a little creativity, you can plan some innovative romantic excursions at home.
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Habits Grooves and Ruts

The Song of Solomon is a book full of godly wisdom about sexuality, marriage, and romance.
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Daddy’s Home

You'll be amazed at how a mom can set up Daddy as the hero of the house in his children’s eyes ... and you'll be amazed at what this will do for your man.
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Does Your Husband Need Encouragement?

Your husband needs to be reassured that you still think he's wonderful, even if the rest of the world doesn't. Here are three ways you can build him up.
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Encouraging Romance From Your Husband

Three steps to provide your husband the safety and encouragement he needs to set foot upon the path to a more romantic marriage.
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10 Ideas: Making Time for Your Spouse

How to keep your marriage on the front burner of life.
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A Man’s Priorities: How to Decide What...

Putting God, others, rest, and work in their proper places.
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Are You Making the Most of Your “Drive...

These 10 ideas will help you invest your time in your car, instead of waste it.
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How Should We View Life’s Interruption...

Giving thanks in all circumstances helps us remember that a sovereign God orders our lives.
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It’s Time to Lighten Up!

You’ll never find the time to have fun with your spouse; you have to make time.
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Back from the Edge of Destruction

By the time Doug and Patty Daily faced their most difficult trial, their marriage had come a long way from the days when they prayed one of them would die.
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Can the Bad Economy Save Marriages?

Money is a key factor in marriage breakups, but the economy is also keeping some couples from finalizing divorces.
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Everybody Needs a Budget

Helpful tips for conquering a necessary task.
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Getting Out of Debt

You can do it!
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Grace for the Great Recession

Economic winters are not excuses to show fear but opportunities to live by faith.
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Changing Your Financial Direction

Four steps to getting where you want to be.
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How to Face a Layoff

"It’s a layoff. Your position has been eliminated." I felt stunned. Betrayed. Embarrassed. Expendable. Insignificant. Angry. Terrified.
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Is It Okay to Divorce a Spouse With Alzheime...

A marriage marked by unshakeable commitment is a beautiful picture of Christ's relationship with the church.
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Suffering

How Firm Is Your Foundation?

You may not understand why God allows you to experience sorrow or hardship, but you can cling to the truth of His Word.
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A Fiery Trial on 9/11

After Brian Birdwell was injured in the attack on the Pentagon, he faced a long road to recovery, with the help of his wife, Mel.
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After a Failed Pregnancy: Our Road to Better...

Emotional and spiritual recovery involved several key spiritual decisions.
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Angels Dressed in Black

How many times has God used catastrophes in our lives to redirect us from a path of self-destruction?
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Coping With Your Husband’s Job Loss

Seven ways a wife can show her support.
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Distance Runners

Whatever circumstance in your life you are facing that requires perseverance, find the will to keep going.
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Feeling His Tears

I realized that by lying in bed, sick and unable to accomplish anything, I was actually achieving what I wanted most.
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A Spiritual Mismatch—and the God Who Sees

Any marriage offers occasions on an everyday basis for us to choose the needs of our spouses over our own.
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A “Miracle” Across the Street

This story is just one example of how God changes hearts through the love of others.
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Complete List of No-No’s for Relating...

The following comments were given by women when they were asked, “What ‘no-no’s’ do you have for a man about relating to his wife?”
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Bringing Out the Best in Your Spouse

God uses marriage to complete and “perfect” a man and wife.
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Loving Your Man Without Losing Your Mind

What I did when my husband wouldn't change his irritating ways.
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Googling for Help on Marriage

What can you learn about the state of many marriages today from Google’s most popular searches? Sadly, quite a bit. To see for yourself, go to the homepage for Google and type in “My husband.” Google’s “auto complete” function will then provide you with a number of suggestions to finish your search phrase, based on […]
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‘I Have Seen the Lord Turn Trials to T...

A pastor says it's essential to help couples learn how to build a true Christ-centered marriage.
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Living the American Dream

If life was a dream to Barry Abell, it was a nightmare to his wife, Pam.
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Lies Husbands and Wives Tell Each Other

Partial truth is not truth. We have to be diligent to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
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Loving the Unlovely

Is it possible to love someone whom you hate?
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I Am Divorced

Poem as read by Dennis Rainey on the radio broadcast of "FamilyLife Today".
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Demystifying Differences Through Communicati...

These four techniques can give men and women better understanding.
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Googling for Help on Marriage

Many people are desperately searching for answers.
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Things I Miss About Being Married

Confessions of a Young Widow: The Little Thi...

Sometimes the greatest joys of marriage are the little things that most people probably take for granted and don’t realize are blessings.
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Money Management for the Christian Family

If money is causing tension in your family, consider this three-step plan.
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Keys to a Great Marriage East or West

I’m starting to see more and more media reports exploring the benefits of arranged marriages vs. the modern Western model of dating to find a “soul mate.” Generally they’re pretty objective about the pros and cons of both. In the typical American marriage, the couple already has a head start on getting to know each […]
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Moms on Marriage

by Karen Loritts, Sabrina Beasley, and Tracey Eyster   Sweet love My husband and I recently celebrated 38 years of marriage. I still remember the day we met as though it was yesterday. We were introduced after our college spring concert. He was strong and handsome. In fact, he was just too good looking and […]
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Moms on Marriage

Sweet Love My husband and I recently celebrated 38 years of marriage. I still remember the day we met as though it was yesterday. We were introduced after our college spring concert. He was strong and handsome. In fact, he was just too good looking and manly to be real! It would take us another […]
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Reader Responses Is Marriage a Dying Institu...

On May 16, 2011, Dave Boehi wrote an article called "Is  Marriage a 'Dying Institution'?"  Readers were invited to respond, and here are 100 of their comments.
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Reader Responses Is Marriage a Dying Institu...

Editor’s Note:  In the Marriage Memo of May 16, 2011, Dave Boehi wrote on “Is Marriage a ‘Dying Institution’?”  Readers were invited to respond, and included here are some of the responses we received. Click here to read additional responses. 101.  In my humble opinion, marriage is not a dying institution. We humans are more comfortable […]
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‘How Did I Get Myself Into This Mess?...

Jerry and Nancy Foster's finances and marriage were caught in a downward spiral.
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Of Husbands and Football

I recently pondered why men are so drawn to the game.
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Job: One Man’s Walk Through Tragedy

Four lessons we can learn from the life of Job.
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Our Home Became a War Zone

People thought I was crazy. Why in the world would I hold on to someone who obviously did not want to be with me?
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Preventing Bitterness in Your Heart

If you tend to carry resentment toward your spouse, here are three steps to help you prevent bitterness from destroying your marriage.
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Praising God in the Midst of Misery

The advice that initially angered me eventually turned my woe to worship.
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Navigating the Interruptions and Busy Season...

Practical suggestions for regarding interruptions as "sovereign deliveries."
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Things I Take for Granted

When was the last time you thanked your spouse for everything he or she contributes to your life?
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The Surpassing Greatness of His Power

The key to building the type of marriage and family that we long for.
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The Power of Love

How God used marriage to impact my past, present, and future.
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The Value of Money

We must use money in a way that satisfies not just the senses but the soul.
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Understanding Your Romantic Style

You probably fall into a pattern when it comes to romance. Here’s help in understanding what you prefer … and even more important, what your spouse desires.
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The Pressures of Life

The heavy pressures in your life are often the things God's using to press you to Him.
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Reader Responses What I Wish Id Known Before...

Always put your relationship with the Lord first and foremost! You can’t change your spouse, only God can. Sometimes you will have a tough time with in-laws and understanding them but forgiveness and understanding is key. *** Because it’s not always so obvious, it might bear mentioning: even in the most loving marriage—and obviously in […]
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Reader Responses: What’s the most roma...

Reader responses to the question, “What’s the most romantic thing your spouse has done for you?”
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Respect your Husband Like a VIP, Then Watch...

Respect is both a verb and a noun—an action and an attitude.
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Q&A: What Communicates Love and Romance...

When it comes to romance, the sexes speak a different language.
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Q&A: Stressed, Exhausted, and Not in the...

Has God played a cruel joke by giving many men a strong sex drive?
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Q&A: Making Decisions When You Disagree

Balancing roles and relationship in decision making.
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Q&A: Help Your Spouse Overcome Guilt

How can I encourage my spouse when he regrets decisions from his past?
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Q & A: A Wife’s Job Description

What is a wife’s job description? What are the duties and responsibilities involved?
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Q&A: Finding Time for Communication With...

Suggestions for being intentional about connecting with each other.
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Surprised by Miscarriage The Helplessness Hu...

The loss of our first baby taught my husband and me some powerful spiritual lessons.
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Staying Strong in the Midst of Suffering

Suffering has certainly not been a stranger to the Rainey family.
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Starting Over

Diana Green felt like she had a new husband after Floyd suffered a brain injury.
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Strategic Romance

Promoting passion in your relationship.
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The True Story Behind ‘The Vow’

When Krickitt Carpenter emerged from a coma following a car accident, she didn't know her husband. Here's the story behind the film, 'The Vow.'
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Grieving with Gratitude

In the week after my wife's death, I struggled with whether I should be grieving my loss or celebrating Muriel's gain.
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Speaking From The Heart

"We have realized now that actually Charlie's ALS is a blessing because God has allowed him to be a voice to share His message of hope and encouragement."
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Secrets to Matrimonial Friendship

If friendship has grown cold in your marriage, or was never given an opportunity to develop in the first place, these suggestions can help you change that.
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Running the Race

What encumbrances do you need to lay aside in order to go the distance?
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The Key to Running and Finishing the Race

The conclusion to a discussion on Hebrews 12:1-3.
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The Grand Illusion

Choosing contentment over the desire to acquire.
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Slaying the Phantom in Your Life

All of us have unattainable mental images of our roles in life, but there is a way to live free from their terror.
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So the Romance Doesn’t Die

Don't mistake passionate love for romantic love; only one goes the distance.
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Suffering

The Impossible Response

Facing the trials and sufferings of life.
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The Amazing Story of John and Donna Bishop

How do you explain the concept of marriage to a husband who doesn’t remember you and doesn’t even know what marriage is?
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The Anniversary Blend

When I invest in my marriage today, it makes tomorrow well worth the wait.
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My Emotional Affair

Had I been physically unfaithful to my husband? No. Had I committed adultery in my heart? Yes.
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10 Questions Every Woman Should Ask Her Husb...

This small exercise will keep your marriage sharp.
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Taming the Media Monster

In today’s world of media bombardment, your marriage and family can suffer. Consider these tips for getting media intake under control.
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The “Superior Wife Syndrome”

In the end, it's not a big deal if my husband does things differently than I would.
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Reader Responses The meaning of in sickness...

Editor’s Note:  In the Marriage Memo of January 30, 2012, Dave Boehi asked readers their thoughts about the choices made by a woman featured in Washington Post article titled, The Vow: A family learns the true meaning of “in sickness and in health.” Below are the responses that we received: 1. This story struck a chord with me.  I […]
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Q&A: No One Can Do It All

There are only so many things parents can do, so make sure you are choosing the right priorities.
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Are You Married to Your Smartphone?

Technology is evolving so quickly that many of us are barely aware of how our changing behavior threatens our most important relationships.
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Your Marriage Comes First

Is allowing your children to sleep with you the bes idea?
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When Your Spouse Is a Survivor of Sexual Abu...

With your patience and understanding and God's help, it is possible for your spouse to return to normal and healthy sexual and emotional function.
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When Romance Is Gone

In our busy world, it’s easy for the feeling of romance to fade away. Take some steps this week to enhance or reignite romance in your marriage.
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When Opposites Attract in Marriage

How to deal with the differences that can rob a relationship of its peaceful, accepting love.
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When Life Gets Tough(er)

Caring for Joe’s mother was a challenging addition to the other pressures in our family.
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When Life Doesn’t Seem Fair

Circumstances, events, and problems may not always appear to be "fair," but they come from our loving Father. And He can be trusted.
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When Families Fall Apart

Unbelievable things can happen when you partner with God.
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When Love Happens At the Wrong Time

There is value to loyalty and vows for life.
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When a Man Loves a Woman

A woman has seven basic needs that a man must learn to meet if he desires to love her as fully as God intended.
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What Real Love Is

Can you say "I'm committed to you, no matter what?"
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We Know That Life Is Short

It’s a strange feeling to spend a day wondering if you’re at the end of your life.
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We Didn’t Take Time for “Us̶...

A Weekend to Remember® was just what our great marriage needed.
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Two Stupid Things Husbands and Wives Do to E...

Have you ever committed one of these acts of “Cupidity”?
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Fifty Shades of Caution

A few years ago my wife, Merry, said to me, “I’ve been hearing about this new book, Fifty Shades of Grey.  I wonder if that would be good to read?” “Well, it’s a book about sexual bondage and sadism,” I replied.  “Does that sound like something you want to read?” “I don’t think so.” It […]
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Things I Miss About Being Married

Lessons From Grief: Living Is About Dying

How losing my husband made me focus on the gospel.
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The Pressure Proof Test

Honest answers to these simple questions will help you identify the pressure points in your marriage and family.
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Till Death Do Us Part

If you’re caring for an aging or ill loved one, you’ll find encouragement in the lessons learned and lived by former seminary president Robertson McQuilkin.
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List of Certified Conflict Coaches

List of conflict coaches that have been trained and certified by the Institute for Christian Conciliation (ICC), part of Peacemaker Ministries.
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What Does Counseling Cost?

Many factors can influence a counselor's rates.
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If Your Spouse Refuses to Go

Don’t give up on your spouse, but don’t let your spouse’s resistance control you.
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What if Your Pastor Cannot Help You?

A few options for where to look next.
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What is Biblical Counseling?

A focus of biblical counseling is to help others develop a biblical worldview of their life and recognize the core truth that guides right thinking and actions.
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How Can Counseling Help Your Child

Sometimes a teen will talk to a counselor and share problems or frustrations that they don't feel free to share initially with a parent.
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6 No-No’s for Relating to Your Man

Intentionally connecting with your husband takes hard work.
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The Ring Makes All the Difference

Marriage builds a relationship like no other. Don't settle for less.
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How Can I Motivate My Husband to Get Right W...

Many wives are growing in their faith but are married to men whose Christian growth seems stagnant.
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Sex and marriage

Sex Is a Reflection of Oneness

Difficulties in a couple’s sex life often reflect deeper issues in their relationship.
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Enjoy Life With the Woman Whom You Love

It's the little things that remind me how much I enjoy life with the wife God has given me.
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Have You Lost that Lovin’ Feeling?

My husband and I lost our romantic spark, and our sense of adventure and fun. We got off track and stopped caring about each other.
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Disappointed in Marriage

Seasons of disappointment have the power to empty us or empower us—the deciding factor is our response to our circumstances.
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With Humility of Mind

The best place for us to practice being "servants of all" is in the home.
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Why We Need Marriage

In an age when so many question the need for marriage, it's helpful to remind ourselves why this was the first institution God created.
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The ‘Good the Bad and the Ugly’...

Couples need to learn how to love each other with the love of God.
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When Everything Is About Me! Me! Me!

In my effort to build a lasting marriage, I've realized I face a never-ending battle against my natural sinfulness and selfishness.
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Keys to a Great Marriage East or West

A Christ-centered marriage allows you to love your spouse, not out of duty, but because you are first loved by Christ.
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What Does God Think About Sex?

The Song of Solomon provides an excellent description of God's intention for sex between a husband and wife.
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Thoughts on the Royal Wedding

My prayers are with the royal couple as they face the challenge of living out the words of commitment, encouragement, and exhortation they heard during their wedding.
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Reader Responses: Honeymoon Horror Stories

Readers describe nightmares and challenges they faced as they began marriage.
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Preparing for marriage

Single Men, It’s Time to Step Up

It takes a man to be an initiator.
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Q&A: Sharing Common Interests With Your Spouse

Q&A: Sharing Common Interests With Your...

Without a common foundation, the years of old age become the death years instead of the glow years.
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Rising Above Our Differences

Early in marriage it's important to look for something beautiful rather than focusing negatively on differences.
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The Leap List

An automobile commercial provides an interesting reflection of the way many people view marriage today.
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A Hand to Hold When I Grow Old

A couple married 55 years shares some of the best marriage advice my husband and I ever received.
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Building a Relationship That Outlasts Your P...

Your love can mature and sweeten during the coming seasons of your marriage.
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Finally Doing Marriage God’s Way

We now have the tools to make our marriage work, and we’re sharing them with others.
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Honeymoon

Honeymoon Horror Stories

Readers share their honeymoon woes with us.
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Readers Share How We Got Engaged

In the June 7, 2010 issue of Marriage Memo, Mary Larmoyeux wrote about “Proposal Stories to Remember.”  We invited readers to send in their own stories of “How We Got Engaged,” and a number responded.  These stories prove again that there are few things more creative than men in love. 1. When we first started dating, […]
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Equipping Couples for Lifelong Love

Bill and Geri Masuzzo are committed to helping engaged couples learn how to be married.
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Father of the Bride

In my mind Bethany is still that little girl who was born with a dimple on her right cheek–just like mine.
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Father of the Bride Part II

The heart of a wedding is really a simple ceremony in which a man and woman pledge their lives to each other.
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Father of the Bride The Final Chapter

Little else occupied my mind in the weeks leading up to my youngest daughter's wedding
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5 Things I Wish I’d Known Before Marri...

Even after all the preparation Merry and I had for marriage, there are some important things that we did not fully understand.
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God’s Way Is Always the Best Way

Confronting cohabitation in my church.
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Preparing Couples for Marriage and for Life

Whatever you say about the state of marriage today, one thing is sure: Most people get married at some point in their lives. I’ve found that the period before the wedding is a key time for the church to connect with these couples. Think about it: They usually need a pastor to perform the ceremony, and they want to […]
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The Soul Mate Fantasy

A soul mate isn't someone you discover; it's someone you intentionally and prayerfully become.
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The Wedding of Rebecca Jean Joy SusieQ Raine...

Notes from the day my daughter, Rebecca, married Jake Mutz
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Q&A: The Need for Friends

What can I say to a husband who doesn't understand my need for good friends?
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Being Successful Where It Counts

Three suggestions on how to prioritize your life.
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Splitsville

The pain of divorce never goes away for the children.
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She Fed Her Husband Dog Food

Most people would have called this a marriage without hope.
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Remember Your Wedding Vows

God designed marriage to be between one man and one woman ... for life
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How Do Men and Women Differ in How They View...

We believe that sex is a beautiful, God-given desire that can bring a husband and wife together in oneness
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A Woman’s Emotions

We are made in the emotional image of God, so we shouldn't be afraid of those feelings when they crop up.
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Q&A: When Your Husband Loses Interest in...

Three suggestions for coping when his spiritual life seems at a standstill.
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Stayed together, stayed married

Her Husband Wouldn’t Speak to Her—for Th...

Even in the silence, June Sims continued serving her husband as she waited for God to answer her prayers.
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Do You Have a One-Way Marriage?

Many people cannot conceive of enduring hardship as I have. But I have been convinced that God has wanted me to keep the vows I made before Him. Here are five essentials for surviving and thriving when you are the only one trying to build your marriage.
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10 Ideas: Prayers for an Unbelieving Spouse

I knew that I was powerless to change my husband’s heart—only the Lord could do that.
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Man handling loss

Weathering the Storm of Job Loss

When you’re on the other side looking back, how do you want to have handled it?
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How God Uses Suffering for His Glory

Five reasons we must face affliction.
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Suffering

A Year-Long Season of Suffering

Barbara and I learned that without a plan and the inner resources to move through problems, a marriage will flounder.
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How can I keep my family strong in the midst...

Trials, problems, and even calamities are a normal part of life.
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Where Is Your Treasure?

Instead of leaving behind your treasures, send them on ahead.
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Surviving the Economic Storm

Four financial principles that will help your family in this time of economic uncertainty.
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When Little Girls Grow Up

 
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10 Principles for Talking With Your Spouse A...

It’s important for husbands and wives to agree on financial decisions because they both will experience the consequences.
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How Do We Deal With Financial Difficulties?

How you handle your money is one of the greatest tests of your marriage.
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husband and wife, back-to-back, each talking on their phones.

10 Ways to Reduce Stress

In order to have healthy marriages and families, we must obey our God-given desire for peace and rest.
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Learning the Value of Quiet and Rest

I wonder how many of our children would be able to hear God calling their names through all the noise in the background?
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Are You Playing ‘Hide and Seek’...

Defeating isolation in your relationship.
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Death of a Family

This letter reminds me that every effort I make to preserve my marriage and my family is worth it.
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Child of divorce

When Life Hurts: Understanding Stepchildren...

Children in stepfamilies have experienced a multitude of losses and difficulties, and the death of a parent or a parental divorce is just the beginning. 
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Meeting my husband's romantic needs

How Your Husband Defines Romance

In order to meet your husband's need for romance, you must understand that it means something different for him than it does for you.
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Marriage

The Foundation of a ‘Oneness Marriage...

God has given us divine blueprints that offer hope, direction, and purpose for marriage.
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Evaluating Your Spiritual Relationship Befor...

Your spiritual compatibility will influence the quality of your future marriage more than any other factor.
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How Can I Help My Daughter Marry Well?

There are some non-negotiables that our daughters must look for in a prospective husband.
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Wedding and marriage

Ashley and Michael’s Covenant

I saw God's plan for marriage first hand as I walked my daughter down the aisle.
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Combating Cohabitation With a Free Wedding

Weddings today are being seen more as a social affair than as a public declaration of the lifelong union of one man and one woman.
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A Drive-Thru Wedding

Is there really much difference between the weddings in Las Vegas chapels and those that occur every week in many churches across America?
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Wedding and marriage

More Than a Wedding

A wedding is not the completion of engagement but the beginning of a new life.
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Preparing Your Children for Marriage

We spend weeks training our dogs how to sit and heel, yet, when it comes to marriage, we leave our children to fend for themselves.
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Are You Fearful About Becoming a Parent?

It’s important to learn God’s view on children.
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Agreeing on Lifestyle Choices

Three powerful influences work together to drive many married couples over the financial cliff.
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Respectfully Leaving Your Parents

When you marry, it's important to step away from depending on your parents for your livelihood and emotional support and depend on each other instead.
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Superglue Your Marriage

The world's 50/50 Plan for marriage is destined for failure. God's plan calls for something much greater.
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Clues your spouse isn't listening

4 Clues Your Spouse Isn’t Listening

Communication struggles need to be identified before they can be repaired.
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Just Tell Me What I Want to Hear

Even when it stings, I'm thankful for a husband who is straightforward.
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Open communication in marriage

The Number One Problem in Marriage

Open communication is essential to the life of a marriage relationship.
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Walking With God in Your Marriage

These seven spiritual disciplines will help you build your house on the rock-solid foundation of Jesus Christ.
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Great Dates

It's easy for a married couple to get into ruts—doing the same things together, year after year.  Here are some ideas on how to plan a date night.
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Romance in marriage

How Can I Increase Romance and Non-sexual In...

The foundation of a marriage is a commitment of unconditional love. Romance is an outward expression of that love ... and a thermometer of your relationship.
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Creative ways to please your husband

15 Ways to Please Your Husband

Enhance your husband's self-worth by discovering—and doing—what pleases him.
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Before the Flowers Come: Three Steps to Prep...

There are ways in which we can prepare our lives to find comfort even after the death of a spouse.
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Finding Comfort in the Midst of Grief

I had always turned to the Bible when I had problems, but after losing my husband I was hesitant.
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Sabrina’s Wedding: The Calling

Much to my surprise, I realized God was calling me to be faithful, not single.
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The Cohabitation Complication

The key to making marriage work—and what sets it apart from cohabitation—is commitment.
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Choosing a spouse

Choosing a Life Partner

The biggest decision you'll make outside of choosing to accept Jesus Christ as Savior.
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Equally Yoked–God’s Perfect Plan

Though obedience to God can be difficult, it’s always worth it.
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Dating

Finding Your Million Dollar Mate

Most people never take the time to approach dating, let alone the quest for a mate, with such care and purpose.
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Looking for Mr. Right

What should you look for in a future spouse?
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6 Character Traits to Look for in a Potentia...

When you are searching for the person who will join you in building a lifelong marriage, what really matters is character.
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10 Ideas: Helping Your Marriage Last a Lifet...

Advice from couples who have been married over 50 years
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husband and wife sitting together outside smiling

10 Ideas to Protect Your Marriage

Advice from couples who have been married over 50 years
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Practical advice for marriage

11 Rules on Marriage You Won’t Learn i...

Here's some practical, counter-cultural advice on how to make marriage work.
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After 25 Years, Am I Part of a Dying Breed?

In a world where life hits us hard at every turn we all long for a soft spot with arms that hold, eyes that embrace, and a heart that loves us in spite of ourselves–forever
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5 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Covenant

It's time to realize our marriage vows are a covenant—a solemn oath made by a husband and wife to each other and to God. Here are some ideas for making a covenantal commitment a reality in your marriage.
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Redefining the Vow

What does "in sickness and in health" really mean?
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Redefining the Vow? (Part 2)

Readers respond to a recent Marriage Memo
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Dating

Did I Need to Stop Dating?

Sometimes a ‘season of singleness’ helps you grow in your most important relationship … if you do it right.
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Memorable Proposal Stories From Our Readers

Marriage Memo readers respond with their creative proposals.
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Marriage Is Never What We Expect

I noticed three common themes that developed among responses to a recent series of Marriage Memo articles