Be Gentle in Your Assertiveness

Christians somehow think being assertive is a bad idea but I think the problem is more about how you deliver your assertiveness. Most people use a rude or angry tone. Try being gentle. With a former spouse you might calmly say, "Please stop sharing your opinions about my family with our child. You're putting him in the middle and I know you don't want to hurt him. Thanks." It's okay to be assertive-even Jesus was assertive. Just take out the rude and put in the gentle. In love, speak the truth.