Moving Toward You
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Have you ever been frustrated trying to motivate an employee, a friend, or a child? The notable therapist, Edwin Friedman said, "People can only hear you when they move toward you, and they are not likely to do that when your words are pursuing them..." People move toward you when they trust you. But, negative or critical words cause them to move away which means they can't hear what you say. Want to improve a relationship? Change what comes out of you to something peaceful and inviting.
Ron DealRon L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series
In the movies-and life-scary music means it’s time to run!
Moving Toward You
Ron: In the movies—and life—scary music means it’s time to run!
Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.
Ron: Have you ever been frustrated trying to motivate somebody—an employee, a friend, a child? The notable therapist, Edwin Friedman said, “People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to do that when your words are pursuing them…” People are moving toward you when they trust you and find you to be safe. But, critical words or a negative spirit pursues them. It chases them away. And when they are moving away from you they can’t hear anything you have to say.
Want to improve a relationship? Change the music coming out of you—something peaceful and inviting—and see if they don’t turn around. For FamilyLife Blended, I’m Ron Deal.
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