Shaunti Feldhahn

Shaunti received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher, best-selling author and popular speaker. Today, she applies her analytical skills to investigating eye-opening, life-changing truths about relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Her groundbreaking research-based books, such as For Women Only, have sold more than 3 million copies in 25 languages and are widely read in homes, counseling centers and corporations worldwide.

In 2020, Shaunti, together with her husband Jeff Feldhahn, released Thriving in Love & Money. Little did they know just how timely this book would be as the world suddenly changed and couples needed to be able to talk about money more than ever. While most money books deal with surface issues of budgeting and debt, many couples struggle to even talk about money and it creates tension and a barrier to true oneness in their relationship. This is the money book that’s not about the money. It uncovers the issues that cause money conflicts and provide couples with truths that are relationship game-changers. Because you need a better relationship, not just a better budget. Find out more at thriveinloveandmoney.com.

Her book, The Kindness Challenge, continues to catalyze a much-needed movement of kindness across the country and beyond. Dozens of prominent organizations and leaders are coming together to do The 30-Day Kindness Challenge, and encourage their followers to do the same.

Shaunti’s findings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show and Focus on the Family, The New York Times and Cosmo. She (often with her husband, Jeff) speak at both live and on-line events in the U.S. and around the world. Shaunti and her husband Jeff live in Atlanta with their daughter and son, and two cats who think they are dogs.

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Do you and your spouse fight about money? How do you stack up to other couples in this area? Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn share discoveries from their research and reveal the gender trends behind it all. View Show Notes →
Jeff Feldhahn is frugal with money, but his wife Shaunti has no problem spending freely. Dave and Ann Wilson share this same dynamic. Listen as these couples unpack both sides of this equation with real-life marriage examples. View Show Notes →
Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn talk about why couples so often fight about money in marriage. The Feldhahns shed light on this and explain why just having conversations about money is the most stressful part. View Show Notes →
Gathered from FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It cruise, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and Brian Goins answer a variety of questions from husbands--like, "Why does she ask for my opinion, then do her own thing?" "Why does she pick on my tone of voice?" "Why doesn't she say what she means?" View Show Notes →
Trying to figure out why your wife expects you to know what she's thinking? Brian, Shaunti, and guest Jim Mitchell explore how to uncover what's whirring beneath the surface in a way that makes your wife feel known--and significantly improve your relationship. View Show Notes →
Ever wonder if you're any good as a husband? Does conflict with your wife leave you feeling outwitted or inferior? Listen to Brian, Jen, and Shaunti dive into the validating differences between men and women. View Show Notes →
If you don't know how to handle your wife's tears, you're in good company. You're not the only husband who's paralyzed by his wife's emotions. But what if you saw them as a way to understand her better? Listen to the insights Brian, Jen, and Shaunti offer! View Show Notes →
Bob Lepine, Shaunti Feldhahn, FamilyLife President David Robbins, Bruce Goff, Keith Lynch, and Marques Holt share the good, the bad, the simple and the hard things about being a dad. View Show Notes →
Don't turn off that Hallmark movie after only 30 seconds just because you can already guess the plot. Keep watching! You may uncover some valuable clues to the core desires of your wife's heart. Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explain. View Show Notes →
Does it feel like decisions are never final with your wife? How can you get past the taaaaaaaalking and finally "lock in" an answer? Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn provide answers. View Show Notes →
Is there hope for a marriage where trust has been broken through sexual sin (pornography, affairs)? Dr. Michael Sytsma joins the podcast to explain practical steps couples can take to rebuild trust and reconnect to the God of hope. View Show Notes →
What happens when marital trust is broken? Brian Goins, Shaunti Feldhahn, and Ann Wilson talk about when a wife distrusts her husband and her heart turns cold, and how a husband can rebuild trust with his wife. View Show Notes →
As crazy as it sounds, trust can be broken within a marriage and the husband not even realize it. Brian Goins, Shaunti Feldhahn, and Ann Wilson offer hope and wise counsel for couples needing to restore trust. View Show Notes →
Why does your wife ask deep questions just as you're falling to sleep at night? Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn reveal a simple truth about your wife and 3 steps you can take to navigate this late-night impasse. View Show Notes →
Husbands, do you get tired head in conversations with your wife as she circles the airport but never lands the plane? Understand the brain science behind these exchanges, and gain wisdom on why it's an easy win as a husband. View Show Notes →
Your wife can't really be attracted to your "dad bod" right? Shaunti Feldhahn explains why a simple trip to the doctor is probably way more attractive to her than another tip to the gym. View Show Notes →
In episode 2.1 you heard the top 5 "rookie mistakes" of husbands who want more sex with their wives. Now learn from host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn your top 5 "all-star moves." You got this! View Show Notes →
Did you listen to episode 2 and think, "Just shoot straight on this and tell me your best tipes for getting more sex with my wife?" Here's a quick-hit list of the top 5 rookie mistakes you may be making -- Come on man! View Show Notes →
Virtually every husband wonders why sex with his wife feels more complex and frustrating than it should. Why can't she just focus on it more? Host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn, along with Dr. Juli Slattery, provide answers. View Show Notes →
Many wives struggle to believe that their own husbands can see them as beautiful. Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explain these feelings of inadequacy, and show how a husband can overcome them in love. View Show Notes →
Why is he so touchy?" It's a question a lot of wives ask. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins dig into this subject and reveal how influential a wife can be as her husband grows into the man God wants him to be. View Show Notes →
Season one of "Married With Benefits" comes to a close in glorious, speed-round fashion as Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn field rapid-fire questions live from 1000 women. Find out if your burning question made the show. View Show Notes →
No, your husband doesn't act like those guys in the Hallmark movies. Not even close. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins explain why that's by God's design and why it's actually a good thing for you and for your marriage. View Show Notes →
Does your husband "power down" after work right when you need to talk? Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins demystify this common frustration and offer tips to draw him out, including what you can learn from ESPN to gain and hold your husband’s attention. View Show Notes →
You want him to listen but he glazes over or tries to "fix it," frustrating you and making things worse. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins explain two steps to changing this dynamic, plus a pro tip just for wives to help you be heard every time. View Show Notes →
Do men secretly wish their wives looked like bikini models? The shocking results are in. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins discuss and offer wives practical guidance on overcoming their most common insecurities. View Show Notes →
When a husband doesn't deserve respect, should his wife show it anyway? Shaunti Feldhahn presents steps wives can take when their husbands shows little respectability. View Show Notes →
In this encouraging exploration of the real state of marriage, researcher and author Shaunti Feldhahn teams up with Ron Deal for a deep look at the facts behind the statistics. View Show Notes →
Can you or your husband still have friends of the opposite sex? Yes, but with a few caveats (#itscomplicated). Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins offer calming wisdom on a lightning-rod topic. Learn how to guard your marriage without putting your head in the sand. View Show Notes →
Why would a husband choose video games over his wife? Isn't that juvenile and destructive for a marriage? Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins discuss this sensitive topic in search of win/win solutions for both husband and wife. View Show Notes →
Providing financially while also building family relationships is hard for many husbands to balance. Often it's the wife yearning for more closeness at home. Learn how to talk it through and together find the work/home balance you desire. View Show Notes →
Honey, the trash needs to go out, but please don't take it now because I like asking 12 times, said no wife ever! Then why is this so common? Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins explain what's really behind this and how to move a husband to action without nagging. View Show Notes →
Does your husband always try to carry the groceries in a single trip? You may be surprised when you learn why he does that. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins crack open the mystery and explain why he risks breaking all those eggs. View Show Notes →
When a husband doesn't deserve respect, should his wife show it anyway? Shaunti Feldhahn describes what many women have discovered by doing just that. This isn't a naive pep talk. It's a presentation of transformational steps wives can take when their husband shows little respectability. View Show Notes →
Do you and your husband butt heads over the kids? Are you the disciplinarian while he plays the fun parent? Shaunti Feldhahn gives three tips for dealing with parenting impasses, plus a secret to help your husband see your point of view. View Show Notes →
Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce, right? WRONG. In this encouraging exploration of the real state of marriage, researcher and author Shaunti Feldhahn teams up with Ron Deal for a deep look at the facts behind the statistics. View Show Notes →
Porn is disgusting, fake, and destructive, right? So how could your husband be tempted by it? Shaunti Feldhahn explains, with brain science and biblical wisdom, that while never excusing the sin, you can play a compassionate role in helping him win the battle. View Show Notes →
Does your husband sulk or get angry over the weirdest things? Shaunti Feldhahn explains common mail triggers and what's underneath them. She also provides a "next day rule" that will help you avoid these conflicts altogether. View Show Notes →
Wives often think their husbands need sex for only physical reasons. Wrong. Shaunti Feldhahn reveals why having his wife's desire meets a deep emotional need for a husband that will strengthen the bond of marriage and bolster every other area of his life. View Show Notes →
Hanna Seymour and Jaqueline Anderson Meza tell their stories of dating their husbands. Deepak Reju has some advice for singles. Shaunti Feldhahn gives her perspective on the singles' landscape. View Show Notes →
The #MeToo movement is a cultural conversation that exposes rampant sexual abuse. Shaunti Feldhahn talks about the ramifications of the broad cultural awareness of sexual abuse in various corners of society. View Show Notes →
What does it mean to have a "happy" marriage? Researcher Shaunti Feldhahn shares her data on the matter, and has encouraging news. View Show Notes →
Shaunti Feldhahn and Ron Deal team up to talk about kindness and the stepfamily. Feldhahn helps us pinpoint our patterns of negativity, and Deal reminds us that kindness can melt the hardest of hearts. View Show Notes →
Shaunti Feldhahn reminds us that expressing kindness goes a long way, especially in marriage. View Show Notes →
Shaunti Feldhahn dares anyone having trouble with a relationship to be kind to that person for thirty days. It will soften the heart of the other person and you'll find that your attitude has changed, too. View Show Notes →
Differences can drive a husband and wife apart. Tim and Joy Downs, Lynn Donovan, Dineen Miller, and Shaunti Feldhahn help you hash it out and still like each other. View Show Notes →
From the FamilyLife Today vault, hear classic conversations from Dave and Ann Wilson, Shaunti Feldhahn, David Stoop, and Bryan Loritts about the nature of biblical conflict resolution, and the value of forgiveness. View Show Notes →
LInda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus tell about a woman who wanted to bless her husband. Shaunti Feldhahn and Cindy Easley discuss the relationship needs of husbands. View Show Notes →
From the FamilyLife Today vault, Shaunti Feldhahn and Barbara Rainey discuss the emotional needs of wives as it relates to intimacy. Tommy Nelson offers his counsel to young people approaching marriage. View Show Notes →
Shaunti Feldhahn assures couples that happiness is within their reach, especially when they enter the marriage covenant wholeheartedly, resigned to stay committed no matter what. View Show Notes →
It's not always the big things that make a marriage. Little things mean a lot. Shaunti Feldhahn, reveals the five things that women say their husbands do that make them the happiest. View Show Notes →
Shaunti Feldhahn uncovers the secrets to a happy marriage. Find out the five things wives do that sends men to their happy place. View Show Notes →
Having a hard time figuring out the woman in your life? View Show Notes →
Are you having difficulty “reading” your man? View Show Notes →
There’s no denying that men and women are different. But do you realize HOW different? View Show Notes →
What gift has God given you? View Show Notes →
Mothering comes naturally for some women. View Show Notes →
Author Shaunti Feldhahn talks to women about the benefits and challenges of being their husband’s helpmate. View Show Notes →
Do you fly through your days at 90 miles an hour? View Show Notes →
Is your life a juggling act? View Show Notes →
Is your life a juggling act? View Show Notes →
Women today are pulled in so many directions. View Show Notes →
Today on the broadcast, Dennis Rainey talks with best-selling authors Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice about their book, For Parents Only. View Show Notes →
Do you know what makes your teen tick? View Show Notes →
Are men really as romantic as women? View Show Notes →
In a recent survey, it was found that nearly 85% of men go through the day not being sure what they are doing. View Show Notes →
Feeling a little frumpy lately? View Show Notes →
Today on the broadcast, Dennis Rainey talks with Shaunti Feldhahn, author of the book For Women Only, about a man's ongoing need for intimacy with his wife. View Show Notes →
On today's broadcast, best-selling author and newspaper columnist, Shaunti Feldhahn, talks with Dennis Rainey about a man's core need for respect. View Show Notes →
Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn talk about what it means when a woman says "no" in the bedroom. View Show Notes →
Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn encourage husbands to becoming an avid listener. View Show Notes →
Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn tell why meeting or exceeding family financial needs may not be assuring to your wife. View Show Notes →
Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss a woman's uncanny ability to multi-task. View Show Notes →
Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn explain why women need to be reassured that their marital relationship is doing okay. View Show Notes →
Shaunti Feldhahn shares some interesting tidbits about men that every woman needs to know. View Show Notes →