Is dating that beneficial? According to pastors Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas, not really. For Heistand and Thomas, the activity of going on a date isn’t a problem, but too many people use the dating relationship to justify their sexual activity, as if “being in a relationship” makes promiscuity okay. Instead of dating, they encourage singles to establish dating friendships, getting to know someone gradually over time, and then making their intentions of marriage known before beginning to date exclusively.
Gerald Hiestand serves as a Pastor of Adult Ministries at Harvest Bible Chapel in Rolling Meadows, Illinois. Gerald has been married to his wife Jill for 9 years, and together they have two sons. His experiences as a young man, as well as his time working in student ministries, provided the occasion for much of what he writes in Raising Purity.
Jay Thomas serves as the College Pastor at College Church of Wheaton, shepherding over 300 students. Jay is also Director of Ministry Training for the church. He has been married to Rebecca for 12 years. Their children are Peter, Ellie, Ethan and Reid (twins).